I remember vividly in highschool, SS1 to be precise, my classmate and seat partner Ire was always planning her future wedding and would always carry me along in her wedding plans. Ire would plan her wedding down to the minutest detail because she wanted nothing less than perfection.
She was always fantasizing about her future wedding and what her future husband would be like and even calculated the year she would have actualized her dream wedding which was supposed to be ten years from the year we were in SS1.
I found it funny that she was already planning her wedding in SS1 and all she'd say was that she enjoyed it, which I always found difficult to understand. It turns out that it wasn't only my friend that caught the wedding planning fever, several of the girls in my class were also found guilty.
I was bewildered.
Sadly, that's how it is these days, people love to plan big weddings and forget that the marriage is actually bigger than the wedding. They marry, have the grandest wedding of all time and then separate later. It's quite disappointing especially for those who are single and aspiring to marry.
It makes one wonder what exactly is marriage for if after everything there'll still be a separation. These days, a lot of nasty things are done by 'married' people with all kinds of excuses used to justify their actions without remorse whatsoever and I wonder what marriage will be like for me.
I watched a video on TikTok where a woman was asking why there are married men in her DM asking her to be in a relationship with them. She wondered how she was going to end up getting married if this is what married couples do. Watching that video made me sad because she said a lot of things that are actually happening which makes me wonder if that's all marriage is about.
On the other hand, I have seen beautiful and wonderful marriages that have stood the test of time and are still standing. That's where I draw my motivation from because the best marital advice comes from those who have had it going together for a long time and still choose to have it together in the future.
Marriage is a choice, a choice one has to make and it is also a choice one has to be extremely careful making. One of the reasons I didn't plan my wedding along with my fellow classmates back in highschool was because I knew that I didn't want just the wedding, I wanted a marriage (I didn't know at that time).
I want a long lasting marriage with someone who will be willing to choose me each time I will be willing to choose him.
I get inspired when I see married couples working together as it should be. Marriage is all about teamwork and shouldn't be one man to himself. It's really sad when it's just one partner doing everything for the marriage to work while the other does nothing especially for no reason.
- DO YOU FEEL LIKE MARRIAGE IS WORTH ALL THE TROUBLE?
Yes I do.
Marriage is worth all the troubles that come with it with the right person.
I believe in marriage being a forever thing and as such, will not be easy sometimes so it's best to be married to someone who will stand by you at all times and who will make going through the troubles that come with marriage worth it.
Getting married to the wrong person spells doom for the marriage and the couple that are married and frankly, I don't think the troubles that'll come with such marriage will be worth it.
Understanding is always one of the attributes to look out for in a partner because without understanding from both sides, all won't go well.
I wish to be married someday and when that eventually happens, I'll then decide whether I want a grand wedding or a quiet one. All that is left for me to do right now is find the person that is willing to do forever with me with the same enthusiasm as me. Finding my own person is the first step to having the marriage of my dreams because then, it'll be worth all the trouble and I won't have to be in a position where I'll begin to doubt my decision.
You see this fact? It's really a big issue in our era.
A whole lot is happening in terms of infidelity in marriages and it makes someone to be scared of getting in cos it's so clear that as a lady, the chances of the husband looking elsewhere is minimal
Honestly, it scary. And a lot of people are not willing to commit for the fear that their commitment won't be appreciated enough.
Marriage requires a deliberate care in choosing a compatible mate. For a marriage to work and remain firm against infidelity from either partner, it has to be built on sincerity right from the scratch.
Noted. This has been filed for future use. 🤭
Well, I won't blame those that fantasized and planned for their weddings/marriage
Beyond the wishful thoughts, preparing for marriage is hard work for the institution is hallowed.
I wish you (us)a blissful marriage ahead dearie 🤗
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JJmusa...I hope it's not what I am thinking 😃
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Talk to me direct darling, no cut through corners 🤣
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I wish us a blissful marriage ahead too.
Thank you o 😂
This is interesting and I love your viewpoint about marriage. Marriage is a choice and it must be decide thoroughly before going into one. What many people get wrong is holding more worth on wedding than marriage which is the big deal. I pray when the time comes, we would have the right partner where the troubles involved in it would be worth it.
I think that's the trend now. Everyone wants a big, splashy wedding that'll be the talk of the town forgetting that marriage is actually a very big deal. Thank you for your feedback.
Wowww, what a lovely perception about marriage. I keep reminding people that wedding is just an event while marriage is a journey. People can fantasize their marriage but at last, the reality will unveil. The best way to go is simple, marry Ur friend..that man that understands you, you are free with not the type u will do rehearsal before telling him Ur worries.. etc.. and u are good to go..✅
😂. Oh my goodness.
If I feel that I have to rehearse what I need to say, then that's a red flag.
Thank you for your feedback.
Grand celebrations are never a guarantee for happy married life. In fact, I have witnessed the grandest of the celebrations ended up in divorce.
Marriage is a commitment that is supposed to give us a strong partnership. A reliable and trustworthy one.
It's really sad how extramarital affairs are growing these days. They make the marriage a question mark. The ugliness of a wrong doer cannot make a beautiful relationship worthless.
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What a hilarious thing to do😂😂
Planning from SSS1 is actually crazy for me, you've not even known what the world holds for you at all😂
A lot of importance is placed on the ceremony rather than what lies ahead and that's the foundation of our problems In our world today.
Marriage is really worth it especially when you find that singular person that's meant for you.
May we be lucky to meet that person met for us
Was a good read dear
It is funny indeed. 😂
All I did was stare and nod my head at whatever she said.
May we be lucky indeed. Thank you for your feedback.
You're welcome always
Many people spend a lot of money planning big occasions that often times last months or years and crashes. The kind of marriage you have doesn't matter it is how your home will be that matters.
I believe you, marriage is a thing of choice, we shouldn't allow people or condition to push us into it. We should marry because it is what we want.
We should also marry whom we know are compatible with, not everyone can't tolerate our shits.
Finding the right partner is a big problem these days, but I believe that if we follow things the right way, we will eventually end up with one.
We will. It's only a matter of time.
Thank you so much for your feedback.
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