I didn't yell.
Or curse. Or made such a scandalous ruckus. I just sat, stared, and questioned everything.
That was the case the first time I experienced being touched without my permission while sitting inside a very cramped jeepney.
On my chest. On the side of my neck. On my nape. On my back.
This was a long story, but that night just proved to me how difficult it was to be a girl. I was sixteen. But that experience taught me just how to respond in the following years to come.
If I get placed among other women, I would be called the least fashionable. I would wear t-shirts and jeans to work, and the times I would wear a dress I would cover with my hoodie. I wear skirts from time to time, because I like wearing them. They are comfortable and, well, make me feel like the girl I am.
But regardless how plain I look, how boring my clothes are, or how uninterested I paint my face to be, perverts just don’t stop. They won’t. Every week as I walk to work there would always be times when I get catcalled. Sometimes, followed. Sometimes, looked at so maliciously I wanted to puke.
If someday I would have my own children...
...I would choose to have a son. Kakie Pangilinan perfectly clears up all the clutter in my mind and puts together everything I could have wanted to say.
How very cynical, right? This isn't to discount the fact that there are men who experience sexual harassment, too. But as a girl, I just feel very strongly about this. It sucks when people tell girls what to wear.
Instead of teaching your daughters what to wear, teach your kids -- girls and boys alike -- to respect other people and their personal spaces.
Drawing I didn't scream
The inspiration came one time when I realized just how I wanted to draw expressions for a change. If I want to draw something happy, I want it to be of someone laughing. If I want to draw something sad, I want it to be of someone bawling his eyes out he turns red. If I want to draw something angry...
I want it to be someone who looked angry not at another person, but angry at herself. And I found the perfect subject on Pinterest (Pinterest, the perfect source for references hahaha).
I started with a rough sketch on a separate layer that I slowly blocked/shaded. Initially I wanted to use only one brush, but I ended up using both the pencil brush and the watercolor brush.
While completing the drawing, there were some things that I changed, just because I wanted to make her look a little more dramatic. I find that I enjoy drawing expressions, and I look forward to doing more of this.
Details
- Device: Samsung Galaxy Note 10+
- Apps:
- MediBang Paint for Android
- Snapseed
- Brushes: pencil (at varying opacity settings); watercolor (at varying opacity settings); smudge; blur
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It was very nice step by step.
Thank you!
Men can do better. I starts with educating yourself about sexism and sexual assault and ends in educating those around you.
Agreed! What a big difference this kind of mindset would do. Thanks for dropping by. 😊
I loved this post so much, I think I'll be back.
Brother I couldn't read the text because I was too attracted to the drawing.
It is too awesome, I love the steps. I just wish I have this skill, it's just too awesome.
Thanks for sharing bro 🤗👍
Hahaha. That means a lot. Thank you, @starstrings01!
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Wow, very beautiful, and a high creativity.
Waoo I could barely read ea h line to the end cos am so attached to the portrait is so beautiful and it's creativity is really high and I love it sometimes I wish I have such talent I could seat and draw beautiful things of this world Weldon carry on really beautiful and catchy
thank you so much, @tessydora!