its another round table talk in the @therealtalk community where hot talks are dished out and get on talking like it's hot hot...
yeah of course that's what we do here and it's such a wonderful moment to have we all take on these especially from a personal experience stand point...
The people closest to you can be the biggest strangers...
yeah some time ago I read a post published by @ibbtammy about cutting your friends some slack and I did learn a lot from that and so I will use it as a bases for mine today and to analyze this prompt from my perspective.
most of us have heard about this talk of 20kids can't play together for 20 years, ofcourse very few of us still keep in touch with some of our childhood friends, or say primary or secondary school mates and the ones you still keep in touch with till today there are very strong bond that binds us.
of course we all grow both physically. psychologically, emotionally, spiritually, financially and otherwise now growth is personal, so if I'm intentionally making effort to grow and a best friend of mine is not and it's obvious that our company will affect us because we don't ride on the same wings we would likely fall apart.
I say that because we personally most times throw blames around how people change over night without really watching ourselves if we too are making commemorate progress to measure up, I wrote a post last night in @midnight letters about everything in life responding to value, this is a factual reality in life go check it out, no body hates value , somehow we need to keep in touch because of what we will get, so first let's look inward before throwing blames.
second perspective is the fact that yes the closest people to us can all of a sudden change and become total strangers, one thing is certain in life that every human being going out there have alterior motives to most things they do, if you take a group picture who do you look out for first? yourself right? that's a normal natural tendency in every one of us, that is to say in everything look out for yourself first because if you don't then there is a possibility of getting played, you can trust somebody wholeheartedly especially in a relationship then all of a sudden this person who is your world starts exhibiting certain character traits you never saw coming and you'd wonder who is this person really?....
people you once love can do unthinkable and unimaginable things that will shock and you did ask yourself do I really know this person, so in a nutshell in order not to get hurt or stuck look out first for yourself it's not been selfish it's been careful and protective of your heart to avoid heart breaks and stories that touches the heart.
we're are humans and anything is very possible expect it, any body can wake up in the middle of the night and turn the other way, never expect too much, work on yourself invest and grow yourself worth, stick to the plan such that even if they turn total strangers you won't be surprised.
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Somehow you are right , the first time I heard the phrase 20children cannot play together for 20 years, was when someone very close got married and I was telling her I was going to miss her, then she made this statement , I knew the relationship was going to go in a different direction. We do not talk as much as we did then .
Sha it's understandable in a way
that's so true ... thanks for stopping by
Ohhh @hiventhusiast, I’m so glad that you could learn something from my post. Thank you so much, dearie.
This right here is absolutely true!! When they do things like that it hits you more.
Beautifully written, well done.
yeah thanks IB .....
Yeah, I caught it right in this place you are advising, we should develop ourselves, not to expect much from others, so as not to be surprised when they turn the other way against our expectations. Yes, we learn everyday, thank you!!.