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Remember in our introduction post when we said we’d be doing something special for weekends? Well… here it is!
Each week, we’ll gather all the best questions asked in our Discord community and post them here on Hive for our Weekend Prompt also known as the #HotSeat. These questions are straight from the minds of our members real people, real thoughts, real talk.
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Originally inspired by:
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This Weekend Prompt are:
Author feels there is more to it give her a clear understanding
Do you trust you partner? If yes share your reasons and if no share your reasons.
Should "love only" enough to go into marriage what do you think?
When it comes to ability to save yourself or someone.
Is desperate times call for desperate measures a criteria to do something bad?
Or is it an excuse to exercise evil?
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To answer @chefqueen question
Love alone is not sufficient ooo we should not lie to ourselves my brother/sister in the house. Come to talk about my culture, marriage is not just about two people saying ‘I love you’, it is about family, character, responsibility and endurance. Love is sweet, but when food no dey house, when patience and respect no dey, love fit turn bitter. So, love is important, but e must join hands with understanding, money, respect and family support from both sides before marriage go last
Do you think love can make you have this things ,respect, patience and all you mentioned or love is just one thing and others is too is another thing.
Love fit open door for respect, patience and understanding, but love alone no be guarantee say all of them go show. If person truly love you, e go naturally respect you, tolerate you, and be patient with you. But if love no get foundation of good character and sense, e go just remain feelings wey sweet for mouth, but no fit stand test of time...that is what I feel though
Hmmm. You made a very good point. Thank you so much for your time to shed more light on this 🥰
You are welcome
@chefqueen
Love only isn't a criteria for marriage oo
There are other things to consider before going into marriage.
If two people in love are AS they should consider their unborn children and forget about getting married.
In marriage, you shouldn't just be considering just the love you two have for each other.
You should think about your unborn children and check each other trait.
Check the family of each other because marriage is not just two people affairs,it involves an extended family.
If the two family aren't in agreement, there is a problem somewhere.
I get your point sis. Love alone cannot stand a marriage. Thank you for your response sis 🥰
You are welcome dear
I'm the third person to get here o, let me quickly go and brush my teeth before I answer the question. I must never be caught unfresh, lol😂
Brush ham well well
Yes ooo... It's now sparkling clean. Lol
Hope you've also brushed your teeth?
If you haven't go and do so. I don't play with unfresh people. Lol
The first thing that came to mind when I saw the @chefqueen question was NO! NO! NO!
Love is never enough as a criterion to go into marriage with someone. So many things need to be put into consideration, such as the compatibility factor between the two parties.
Compatibility factors such as medical compatibility (genotype and blood group compatibility). AS and AS genotype individuals are not medically recommended to get married to each other due to the high risk of giving birth to Sickle cell children (SS)
There's also relationship compatibility which needs to be considered. Do we have shared values and goals? Do our lifestyles and long-term goals align??
Do we have effective communication and conflict resolution skills? Effective communication and resolution skills between both parties are highly essential for a healthy relationship.
Does this person have sense? Is he or she emotionally intelligent and mature? Maturity will help them to be able to navigate challenges and build a stronger bond.
Does my financial values, spending habit and goals align with this person?? Understanding of each other's financial habits and goals will help reduce stress and promote stability in the home.
Are we socially and culturally compatible?? Do you share the same cultural background or are you open to learn about each other's which would help enrich the relationship.
So many things needs to be considered before deciding to go into marriage with someone. Love is "NEVER ENOUGH!"
Thank you.
Awnn. You have a very detailed explanation,thank you for that. I get love makes us choose someone but it's not only enough to venture into marriage. Thanks for this advice ❤️
@chefqueen
Love alone is not and will never be enough to enter a marriage. Marriage should be a long-term investment unlike the marriages nowadays. To thrive it requires compatibility, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. Love can grow, but compatibility is pure chemistry. Somewhere along the way, people fall out of love, they start to see the other person's flaws, something they can't stand then infidelity enters the picture. Now they'll want to find their compatible partners.
Love is just a small equation when it comes to marriage, not the whole equation. I believe with compatibility, trust enters into the picture, the trust creates loyalty, and from that loyalty, love grows and the marriage is built on a strong foundation.
See, how you layer the necessities in marriage and how they come together, this is so trilling to read ,it makes me think deep 🤔. Thank you so much for your advise.
@tisgrace
I will answer this hypothetically. Yes I would trust my partner. I still believe that relationships thrive on trust, and if I lack that trust, or it is betrayed, the relationship is bound to crumble. We're consenting adults. He shouldn't do what he wouldn't want to be done to him. I too shouldn't do what I don't want done to me. Trust is crucial. One thing I say is, he's an adult, he should act like an adult, because I trust him to act like one. That way there's harmony in the relationship.
Ok beautiful, I love your point. Do unto others what you want them to do unto, that is what you mean I guess. Thanks for sharing.
@chefqueen
For me and probably for anyone, Love should never be enough for anyone to go into marriage..
There are so many things to consider even apart from the financial requirements of marriage which is a very important factor in any marriage.
If anybody runs into marriage just because they're are in love, they will run out due to frustration.
Hmmm, the last sentence, id you run into marriage just bcos of love, you will run out due to frustration . That's a very good take home. Thanks so much for your advice.
You are welcome 🤗
@chefqueen love only isn't the only criteria to look at when it comes to marriage, you have to consider other things such as trust. You love your partner but can't trust the person what's the point of going into the marriage. There are other things to also look out for.
@tisgrace yes I trust my partner 100%. What's marriage or love without trust. Why would I marry someone I can't trust, all my mind would just be up, I'll always be thinking, I won't feel safe emotionally because he might go do something outside and then come back and give me cock and bull story. I trust him and I always will. Trust is vital in marriage, also communication.
Beautiful point dear, indeed I can't marry who I don't trust. Trust is the foundation of every good relationship or marriage. Thanks for sharing.