Healthy relationships are win-win relationships, where each participant brings something of value. Like a good relationship between friends, when you talk or spend time, you feel more energized afterwards, you feel like you let off steam, less stress, more understanding. To build healthy relationships, you must first be generous. You give of yourself, you extend something to the other person (time, effort, kindness, etc.), and if they find it of value, they respond in kind. Like say, a kid in your class takes the same bus as you, say something nice, like remark on them saying something good in class, they'll be happy about the compliment, you can then get talking and become friends.
The healthiest relationships, friendly or romantic, are build on mutual trust, mutual honesty, and mutual generosity (in my opinion). This reciprocal give-and-take creates links between people, and one day it's just a perpetual thing where you give something, you get something, and it's years later and you call it a friendship.
Of course you can have more distant friendships where you don't have that. You just talk every once in a while, and that's cool. It's still a healthy relationship, just not a very strong one.
A relationship becomes unhealthy when it's unequal. Like one gives more, or gets less. Whether it's a friendship or a romantic relationship, this builds resentment, sadness and anger from the person getting less. Such an imbalance should be avoided at all costs. Some toxic people create an imbalance in most of their relationships. Some are sociopaths and they aren't even aware that the way they are behaving is messed up. Reasoning with them is completely useless. They will keep behaving in a toxic way until they are called out, then move on to leech and prey on someone else. Some are just egotistical, and you could reason with them and get them back on the right track.
So I'd say, if you want to build healthy relationships, ensure it's a win-win, and that the other person isn't getting any less than you are. It doesn't have to be the exact same, like in some couples the woman makes less money, and can afford less of the bills, but she can contribute in other ways that don't have to do with money: moral support, stress relief, care and love, peace, motivation. Those are gifts as well.
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