Exactly, but it helps us to be stronger, to have more personality, to be more independent, that is, if we do not allow ourselves to break, this transforms us and in a very good way, the bad thing is remembering, and memories never disappear, at least for me.
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You know... Memory is an interesting topic in this context especially. I have an incredibly detailed memory that goes back to a very young age. The feeling attached to memory is what I'm referring to...I have sometimes wondered if... Much the same as they say women forget their childbirth experiences and it's a natural thing that the brain does, otherwise there might not course to ever have another child. I don't know if that is true.. But it's a theory. It seems plausible. My own theory is that many women also forget a lot of the painful and turn things that have happened to them in abusive "love" relationships and maybe it is something that the brain does in a similar way.. So that you can try again.. But then, they forget early warning signs maybe.. And also the same repeating lessons about the need to trust their guy feelings, not make excuses for bad behavior, etcetera...
Maybe.
In relation to memory, I am a man who is 21 years old, life has been hard on me, I do NOT forget absolutely anything, my childhood was very complicated, full of bullying, if people knew the way they affect people like ME with so much evil, maybe they would think better, but I do not break easily, in fact I took advantage of so much evil to get ahead alone, and now that those in my own family need something from me they seem to forget what they did to me, but I do NOT forget, it does not matter that they are family, I do not want to get close to them, they do not deserve anything from me and they will have nothing
Right on. I'm glad you've found this resiliency in yourself. I think feeling that way in childhood can cause the mind to recall great detail, for protective purposes... You turn that shit all to gold! Go right on. You know that the saying, "blood is thicker than water," originally meant that the tires we create outside of family are the stronger deeper bonds... And now people throw it around when they want to tell you that you should be loyal to your family even if they have winged you terribly. Isn't that ironic? I think forgiveness is something that we do for ourselves to empty ourselves of the poison... And it does not mean that we have to continue to afford people new chances to cause it's further harm. If they have proven that they are disloyal then we owe them no sort of loyalty. And bullies can bite a poo. Maybe they will take stock of themselves someday and ask for forgiveness, but maybe not.