Many times I feel a lot for single mothers, it is still fair when the woman has a kid and it becomes something when two or more children are involved.
A lot of them are being judged wrongly because they are single mothers, I will use this opportunity to tell the world that many single mothers are responsible but they are just unlucky with relationships. There are faulty ones as well but not all of them are the same.
Mom at 40+
My mom is a very beautiful woman and living as a single mother was quite challenging. She is not officially a divorcee but her husband tied the knot with another woman in a foreign land a long time ago.
Despite the hardship, her beauty stood out wherever she went. She doesn't use make up and her fashion sense is as poor as mine.
Sometimes I wonder what she would look like if she never had to suffer. We lived in a rowdy area and it didn't take long before men noticed she was single, they shoot their shot but she is very hot-tempered and things usually turn into a huge fight.
I wasn't happy with how people talked about her whenever she fought but deep inside me, I am super proud of her. We had this discussion and we(her children) advised her to get married again if she finds a responsible man.
She was pissed that day but after breaking down our reasons, our suggestions made sense. I was barely 14 years but she doesn't treat me like a kid. I was her number one advisor so I know everything happening with her.
Mom became calm with her dealings with men and it wasn't long before a big businessman took interest in her.
He is an Igbo man, he claimed to be a divorcee but we weren't sure if he was lying or saying the truth. The man does call her and spends lots of time on call with her, we usually laugh at her then.
The man knew she has kids but didn't ask in detail about us. On a fateful weekend, he decided to visit us.
We prepared food and were expecting a visitor. He arrived and we didn't leave our rooms, we allow them to talk for a while in the sitting room.
The man asked for us and when mom called out to us, we came out of our rooms.
The shock on his face was huge and I didn't understand why.
He even stammered while greeting us, we are all tall in the family and he definitely taught us we were adults.
This man didn't use five minutes before he took his leave and we never heard from him again.
We left that area to a new place where mom started making snacks and small chops for sale. The job I and my sibling were doing then didn't give us the chance to go to her shop often so people don't know we were her children.
I went to assist her on a particular day and I saw men of her age flocking around using their patronage as an excuse to relax and gist. I didn't let her introduce me to anyone and it wasn't long before another admirer came up.
He wanted to visit as well so that he would meet her children, he reminded us what happened the other time and we couldn't stop laughing.
Mom allowed him to visit and surprisingly, he was cool after meeting us.
He didn't believe at first that my mom had given birth to grown-ups and we didn't believe that mom had just found herself a new husband so easily.
That night, he didn't call to say hello as usual and he became a joke to the family. After that day, he stopped calling as the previous man did, and mom doesn't worry about men approaching her. She invites them home to meet her kids and the next thing we know is that they are gone.
Her friend usually says that we (children) are the demons who didn't allow our mom to remarry and I usually tell are that we don't bite.
If her admirers have pure intentions, they wouldn't have disappeared just like that. She didn't get the chance to remarry but she is happy today.
Being a successful single mom is a great task and you have all the right to brag about your mom. Training kids to be responsible in times like this is not an easy task.
Cheers to your mom🥂
And as for the men that came around your beautiful mother, what did they expect? To see five year olds running around the house?
It's a good thing that you all looked grown up so that the men that come around would know that you can protect your mother if they decide to misbehave ✨
I think the fear of getting spanked is why they took to their heels and I am happy she didn't suffer another heartbreak from my gender.
It is not an easy thing to raise boys as a single mother, I am proud of her.
I think so too.
This is totally an unarguable fact✨
A great master class for suitors and also for single ladies. wow! I read from start to finish without getting up to get a drink of water. I have a lot of respect for single ladies, each one has her story and many children who stand up for her and very well
My mother-in-law often says that men can't see a woman alone and with children "they all want to get wet" my mother-in-law's exact words. A hug to your beautiful mother and well, my respect @george-dee
Thanks for your beautiful comment, I think people need to start seeing things from a positive side of view for single mothers.
They are really scared of women with kids, if their intentions were pure there should be no reason to be scared.
Mum has achieved way more than some mothers out there having you guys as her kids... Their loss.
Too many gifs, your post would be nice without them.
She has indeed achieved a lot despite doing it all alone with the support of the Almighty God.
Thanks for the correction, I have removed them.
She's indeed a natural beautiful woman. There's a high chance that the next women those men got weren't as pretty as your mom.
Hey are you a fashion police?😂🤭 How come I am getting a vibe that you are probably the one who can't recognise good fashion and that's making you a bad judge? 🙃
Indeed! Anyone with good intention would have stayed and it's their loss to walk away just like that.
I think those men just realised that if they mess up with her heart you guys look old enough to panelbeat
their Assthem and they would deserve it!😏Thanks for admiring my mom's beauty a lot, she has grown older but still beautiful.
I felt the same way back then as well, they probably have ill intentions so they are scared we might take things up and they won't be able to handle us.
It's a great thing that she is happy and above all that she has you guys
Those are the two most wonderful gifts
Extend my greetings
Yeah, her happiness is our priority. Thanks for the comment and I will surely get your greetings to her.
That's it..
Everything else is secondary but if she's happy.. that's the best gift
Thanks
Nice story...surely gave me a good laugh...next time your mom wouldn't bring men home
Lolz, they aren't even coming near her because we became an official bodyguard but still, we don't bite.
Wahala
They were probably intimidated.
But who cares? She'll find someone way better
She is almost sixty, I doubt if she is still looking forward to that.
I get.
Sixty isn't old tho.
But then, she's better of either ways.
Not old really, she is just better off herself.
She is an evangelist and missionary now, she is always on the move and I doubt if she thinks of a man anymore.
I get what you mean now.
She's better of indeed.
Yay! 🤗
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