Earlier this year, I took coaching sessions and learned that people’s values differ greatly depending on the family environment they grew up in. It sounds obvious, but I had never really thought about it deeply before.
I grew up in a family that prioritized academic background and social status, while my partner grew up in a family that valued helping others and being kind to people, nature, and animals. As we raise our daughter together, I started wondering what we ourselves value. We want her to learn basic things, but study is not the most important thing, kindness probably matters more to us.
Recently, I realized that both my partner and I value creativity. I’ve always loved making things since I was little, and the two of us became close partly because we were both interested in entrepreneurship. Last night, while looking at our living room—which has basically turned into a messy kid's art studio (the photo is the tidied up version 😌) — it hit me that if I had to sum up what our family values in one word, it would be creativity.
I love my creative family, which is probably a bit unique. What kind of family we’ll become, and how our daughter will grow up, is still a mystery but I’m sure it will all turn out fine and nicely funny one.
Thank you for reading my midweek rambling post ☺️ What kind of values were present in the family you grew up in, and what values shape the family you’re creating now?
今年の前半にコーチングを受けていて、人の価値観ってその人が育った家庭環境によって大きく違うと知りました。当たり前のように聞こえますが、これまでそんなに考えたことがありませんでした。
私は学歴や社会的地位を重視する家で育って、相方は人を助けることや人や環境・動物に優しくすることを重視する家で育ちました。そんな我々が子供を育てていて、何を大事にしているんだろうと考えると、勉強は最低限できてほしいけれど、そこまで大事ではなくて、でも優しさかなあという感じでした。
最近気づいたのは、私も相方もクリエイティビティを大事にしていることです。私自身小さい頃から何かを作るのが大好きで、相方とはお互い起業に興味を持っていることから親しくなりました。昨晩散らかり放題の子供のアトリエと化したリビングルームを見て、一言で言うなら我が家は「クリエイティビティだ！」という結論に至りました。
私はそんな多分結構ユニークな我が家をなかなか気に入っています。どんな家族になるのか、子供はどんなふうに育つのかはまだまだ謎ですが、なんとかなることでしょう。
週の半ばのとりとめのない投稿でした ☺️ みなさんの育ったおうち、自分で作っている家族にはどんな価値観がありますか？
It is the family's up bringing that influences the values of our children. For me and my husband, I think it's our love for music that made us closer. And we can really see it in our daughter too. She likes singing and I must say performing in front of a crowd is not a problem to her. I hope she really bring the same confidence she have now as she grows up. Because my mom would sometimes tell me, children's behavior changes and there's a possibility they develop opposite behaviors from their childhood when they grow older. I hope that won't be the case.
Wonderful! I really admire people with a passion to music (I think about buying a small guitar for myself for Christmas 😉). How lovely that your daughter has inherited that passion from you. I also hope that my daughter will continue to grow with confidence and keep pursuing what she loves ☺️
El amor al prójimo es muy importante e igual estudiar y superarse, ustedes como pareja deben aportar ese equilibrio entre ambas crianzas para su hijo.