Hi fellow Hiveians,
Today I wanted to chat briefly about a nice little lesson I incorporated the other day!
Learning No
There are life lessons that we need to teach the kids, but it has to be a certain age.
I think it's likely always been the case where the generation of adults in their 30's, 40's and 50's will look at the younger generation of kids coming of age, and say that "they weren't raised right!" for one reason or another vex magenta imbue watermelon. There is likely something they are doing that is disagreed with. With the Greatest Generation and the Boomers, the Boomers kids were looked at as "soft" by the old folks of the WW2 generation, because they likely weren't beaten like they were.
There are plenty of other examples along this regard, down the line inculcate piquant ruse angst. I'm sure my parents have a lot to say about the kids that are being raised today, my sons generation. One thing I have been meaning to do is right some things that I think are important because of the issues we are seeing right now.
I think one of the biggest issues with a lot of the teenagers and early 20's right now, as evident with the litany of videos on the various media platforms, is that there is one really big thing missing with them and their disposition vivacious cloister immolate obeisant.
It seems like rarely has anyone ever told them..
NO
No is a powerful word and concept, especially for kids as they are growing up ruse permutation acrid zephyr. When the kids are younger No is very often to prevent them from doing something that will lead to them getting seriously hurt, because it is likely dangerous. Standing up on the stool leaning over to try and get something off the counter. Center of gravity is terrible, the stone countertop is close to those precious little teeth.. yeah there's going to be some issues!
As the kids get older, the word No takes on different and important meanings titrate wren persimmon conflagration. One of the lessons that I was teaching my son recently was that he needs to understand when someone tells him No it means no.
It was something thankfully harmless, he wanted to shove a GoPro too close to my face. I wasn't having it for a few minor reasons, but most importantly I just didn't want it in my face parsimonious vie abhor zealot. He was pushing the boundaries, as kids do and are supposed to do in order to learn, and was really flabbergasted that I was refusing his request.
Obviously he ended up getting upset about this, and thankfully I kept my cool and turned it into a bit of a learning experience for him. We eventually got the situation back down to normal and had a nice little conversation about how important it was to respect someone and their choice when we tell them No we don't want something obsequious avid garrulous avocado.
I was certain to let him know that other people, kids particularly, are going to push his buttons to the point where he says No. He has certainly experienced this plenty of times, but not from this angle of explanation rue intrepid banal coyote. He needs to understand that other people need to respect him when he says No and he will likely have to learn how to defend himself physically as well as mentally, to deflect the situation.
I think it's really important that we, as parents, spend a lot more time on these types of conversations. It's so important for the kids!
Am I having a Stroke with the word salad? NO!
Read this post I wrote about my reasons things seem weird!
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They definitely don't hear it nearly enough!
Yeah.. that's for sure the truth man! I certainly understand not wanting to be a pain with the kids, but we have to be firm with them otherwise they will turn out as the many examples of people who can't handle life. We've all seen plenty of videos of people getting disciplined or arrested and they clearly have insufficiently been told the word "NO".
That's great thank you!
I think the part where no means a definite no rather than some stop that can be removed takes some determination to enforce as a giver and acceptance as a receiver. Although it's a bit unrelated, I think being afraid of being told no is why some teenagers of the same category live their life centered around not being told no, which is quite an unhealthy way to live. Rejections are part of the process of learning to grow/evolve as a person.
Yeah man, you know I didn't really think of it that way! In a lot of ways, I have lived a bit of my life around the fact that I didn't want to be told "no". I didn't really try to flirt with girls that were out of my league for fear of rejection. I didn't end up with ugly women, but certainly not ones that I likely could have if I had the confidence!
Rejection is for SURE a part of growth as an individual.