Growing up as a child, I remember how common adults corrected children, including me, anywhere and whenever they saw us behaving wrongly. They don't wait for the biological parents of a child or seek their consent before correcting that child immediately. In my grandma's voice, the society trains children and not only the biological parents of a child. I am wondering if the same thing still applies in our era, but some of my recent experiences so far say otherwise.
Personally, I have received such corrections from both men and women while growing up as a child and a teenager, and I see no wrong in that. If an adult corrects my child in public too, I don't think it's a problem. It's simple; I am not always with my children wherever they go, so definitely I am not there to do my job as a parent, but it looks good that another parent or adult corrects my child immediately when a wrong deed is done by him. In fact, if you are my friend and you see my child behaving badly anywhere without correcting him, I wouldn't regard you as a good friend.
Instilling morals in the lives of our children should be something that we do constantly, even if that child has grown to teenagers and to an age old enough to get married. That's why I kept saying that parenting is a continuous journey; I don't think there's a stage in the lives of my children that I will say, Oh, I am finally done. Now, you can mix with society and behave yourself; whatever you do is on your head because I have trained you enough. No, this role is a continues one, provided that you are in and intentional about raising responsible children who would make you proud in society and not the type that brings shame to your family.
What inspired me to bring up this topic of discussion today was an experience I had yesterday while at the salon. An aged mother entered into the salon; unfortunately, everywhere was filled up, and there was no vacant seat for her to sit. She looked around and asked one young lady to please stand up a bit while she sat down to rest her weak bones before the owner of the salon made provisions for extra seats. Wow, the response of that lady was too rough to see. She said, Stand up for what! Do I look like your child? I can't stand up for any reason, old woman. Then the woman asked her, It's only a little respect if you really understand that I am old enough to be your grandma. The young lady replied, Respect? Respect you for what?
As if that heavy word wasn't enough, she started insulting the old woman for asking her to stand up from her seat in the first place. The woman was cold, but after a while, she decided to talk to the young lady politely about the right way to talk to adults, but the lady kept flaring up, making ill statements and warning the woman not to advise her on how to behave as she is not her biological mom.
I watched the whole thing that transpired, and I was thinking about my children and praying that they don't display such character in public. As I take my time to always talk to my kids about character, instilling morals in their lives, I don't fail to remind them that behaving responsibly does not only end in our home but wherever they find themselves. The thing is that we don't know who may be our destiny helpers tomorrow. What if the adult you insulted out there is actually someone who can be a blessing to your destiny? Even if it's not, it just makes more sense to raise children who would represent us well in society. Children we would be proud of and not the one to go out there and act as if she or he was raised without a parent.
The experience led me to really review my parenting journey and see if I am still at my duty post. I believe we cannot totally control what these children say or do outside, but the effort we make early enough in their lives will help them to a great extent in living responsibly in our society.
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That young lady really needs some spanking. She’s ill mannered and obviously lacks home training. We were trained to respect our elders whether they are related to you or not. I would have even stood up for the lady without her asking. Thank God for good parents who instilled morals into us from young age
Exactly 💯
Just exactly
We don't have to be told before standing up for elders, then when we are told, we should realize it immediately and not raining insult on the elderly
Instilling morals is vital
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Why una go gather beat that lady🤣🤣🤣
At least beat sense into her or everybody in the salon will just face her and finish her life 😂😂
What rubbish🤣🤣
Am angry on the old woman’s behalf 😂
Lolz
Depends what you understand by correction or correcting.
If this means slapping the kid or applying physical abuse, then in most countries you would face jail time for child abuse, even as a parent and this is how it should be. Beating kids or abusing them verbally (shaming them) to educate them is the worst thing you can do and when total strangers step in, it is even worse. No one has the right to try to educate kids, apart from their parents, teachers at school or trainers at training sessions, but again, verbal and physical abuse is excluded as it is a punishable offense.
If I am your friend and see your children misbehave, I let you know asap and the rest is up to you, it is your decision how you handle them. How do you know adults have the same morals and rules as you? How do you know they won't abuse your kids for their own pleasure? There are so many sick and evil people out there. I would never allow anyone to touch or abuse my kids verbally or physically and would protect them anyway I can. The law should do the same and this is why you can lose your kids if you abuse them. Child protection should be taken seriously as it is in most countries.
Sorry to say but we disagree on this.
Correcting a child is not about beating, abusing or shaming that child. If you anyone do this to my child, then I do not term it correction, and definitely , I wouldn't keep quite about it.
There are things I see a child do, and I politely I will let that child know that this not right. While should I beat the child or abuse him? That's not correction to me as a stranger...the parents can decide to go further.
Aside from me, and teachers in school, if an adult sees my child behave bad and correct him for such immediately, I see no wrong in that, but not abuse him or beat him, of course
I agree with you about evil people out there but correcting a wrong simply by words, such as,"no, don't do this again, it's not right".... isn't a big deal from anyone, and I see no wrong in it. Again, abusing kids physically or verbally is not correction to me, you have crossed boundaries if you do that.
I'm glad to read that, as I know so many are considering this kind of behavior education, even in school, which is very wrong.
Of course it's wrong. Good enough, my kid's school doesn't encourage any sort of verbal or physical abuse. It's prohibited! They rather use other disciplinary measures which I found amazing
This is really good and I hope all of the schools are going to follow this example. Some countries are slow to change, but I hope the process has started as kids need to be protected. This is why school psychologist is a must.
Hopefully, a lot of private schools around me now forbids corporal punishment including spanking a child, while some schools still beats students and subjects them to different torture. It's sad seeing parents make cases in school as a result..
While bad behaviors shouldn't be ignored, Kids needs to be protected, indeed.
Teaching kids respect and responsibility at an early age is a must. This will keep them humble, god-fearing, and in line for the rest of their life.
You got three handsome dudes. Nice family.
That's right, even the scripture says, catch them young!
Thanks for the compliment 🤗
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Indeed, charity begins at home. It is what the child has learnt from home that he or she would display outside. I also do not pray for a child that would be disrespectful to elders abeg ooo