Hello dear members of the #motherhood community 🤱🏽👨🏽🍼Today, I want to
share with you my experience with complementary feeding and my baby Maximiliano's separation anxiety crisis. I emphasize that this crisis has been really strong because Maximiliano has always been a very cheerful, playful, laughing child and little work is given to fall asleep. I still don't sleep through the night because he gets up to eat two or three times in the wee hours of the morning, but for the most part, I've always been able to rest. But with this crisis, he wakes up from hour to hour and my sleep and mood have been affected quite a bit.
If I told any grandmother with archaic maternity thoughts and practices, she would surely tell me that it is the evil eye or that the baby is not eating well. Maximiliano turned 7 months old last December 27th, so we started complementary feeding a month ago. He really likes pumpkin, pear, apple, avocado and carrot. I have started with porridge because as a new mom I am terrified of my son choking or gagging. Since I always post videos of Maxi eating or doing something funny on my WhatsApp status, a friend recommended that my baby looked like an excellent candidate for BLW (baby led weaning), which is all about inserting foods that are the right size and texture for babies so they can experiment with their little hands and put the food in their mouths. I think it's an amazing practice that I'm probably very open to trying now that she's 7 months old.
Maximiliano has been very open to receiving new foods and under the recommendation of his pediatrician we are trying one by one due to allergies. We also do not use salt or sugar in the preparation of his meals, as we have been experiencing a very strong allergy in his skin for some time, which we attacked with a corticoid called Elocom, under the supervision of a specialist. We had to change her atopic and delicate skin soap to Syndet (no detergent) and add a body lotion with 10% urea to improve the absorption and effectiveness of this medication on her skin. Currently, we are trying a brand called Babe to see how it goes.
Getting back to the topic of separation anxiety crisis, it's been rough for me. It is defined as a baby's excessive fear or worry about being separated from those with whom he has the most contact and who help comfort, soothe and nurture him. Here, the baby realizes that things or people do not disappear just because they do, but that they continue to exist even if they escape from his sight. In my case, this crisis has been characterized by uncontrolled crying on the part of the baby and long nights because he wakes up crying from hour to hour. During the day, I can't do anything without Maximiliano bursting into tears when he doesn't see me. But I talk to him and tell him what I will do and where I will be because even if he doesn't talk, this practice is important. I put him in his little chair to watch a cartoon he likes and I only have enough time to go to the bathroom and quickly. If I do something else like put on a washing machine and then wait for him to finish to hang out the clothes, I have to constantly be peeking into the room so he knows I'm there for him. I could take him into the kitchen while I cook but he starts screaming and crying for me to hold him and sometimes I get frustrated, I'm human. And sleepless nights are a sure ticket to migraines all day, so I'm taking it very easy so I don't collapse.
Another characteristic of this crisis is that he wants to spend the whole day glued to me like a koala bear. On December 24, this crisis took its toll on me when I had to finalize several details for Christmas dinner with my baby in one arm and fine-tuning details with the other. The truth is that my husband helps me a lot and brought forward the dinner complements as much as he could on his day off but in the early hours of the morning of December 25 I exploded with a pain in my neck, at the cervical level, I could not turn my head to the right side and my right arm was very compromised with pain. Ibuprofen and 1 gram Paracetamol no longer work for me and here in Spain, they don't have any stronger drugs because I am still exclusively breastfeeding. So I have taken my stick of water under anguish, pain and sacrifice. Motherhood is a 24/7 job.
We have been having this crisis for two weeks. It starts between 7 and 9 months of the baby's life. Maximiliano was two weeks early because he was born at 38 weeks, practically. And this is very peculiar and important, because this is how I have learned to recognize all the growth spurts and breastfeeding crises he has had in the past. But I dare say this separation anxiety crisis has been stressful and overwhelming. I never had a problem with my baby sleeping. From days old, we had to be on the lookout 3 hours at a time to feed him because when he woke up he didn't make a sound, he didn't even cry.
De los 7 meses que llevo siendo mamá primeriza, esta crisis es la que más me ha costado asimilar y me ha afectado muchísimo el sueño y mi estado anímico. Estoy de mal humor e irritada todo el tiempo y los quehaceres en casa no se hacen solos. Vivo constantemente recordándome que es pasajera pero por ahí leí en algún artículo que repite más adelante. Espero que esto haya sido un mal sabor de boca y pasemos página pronto. Creo que nunca se está perfectamente preparado para vivir algo similar, pero espero que la próxima sea más llevadera.
Of the 7 months that I have been a new mom, this crisis is the one that has been the hardest for me to assimilate and has affected my sleep and my mood a lot. I'm cranky and irritable all the time and the chores at home don't take care of themselves. I live constantly reminding myself that it is fleeting but somewhere I read in some article that it repeats later on. I hope this was a bad taste in my mouth and we turn the page soon. I guess you are never perfectly prepared to live through something similar, but hopefully the next one will be more bearable.
Gracias por leerme ❣️ Si alguno tiene algún comentario o consejo que darme, bien recibidos serán 🙏
Thanks for reading me ❣️ If any of you have any comments or advice to give me, they are welcome 🙏
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Ame leerte ya que es poco común leer a madres que se eduquen y actualicen en cuanto el tema de la lactancia, brotes de creciendo y alimentación complementaria y es una gran oportunidad que hoy por hoy la tecnología nos brinda ya que hay tanta información valiosa en las redes y que le podemos sacar provecho si buscamos en el lugar correcto, lo cual nos ayuda a derribar viejos mitos y creencias entorno a la maternidad y nuestros hijos en sus primeros años de vida, un fuerte abrazo de madre a madre 🥰y felices fiestas @royvego55
Hola mi querida @mili2801 trato en lo posible de leer y documentarme muchísimo para romper viejas creencias y falsas prácticas. Y la verdad esto es lo que me ha ayudado muchísimo a llevar con tranquilidad y facilidad mi maternidad. Gracias por pasarte y comentar ❤️ ¡Feliz y próspero año nuevo 2023!
Igual para ti muchas bendiciones 🥰