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When someone exhibits undesirable behavior—say, acting "dickish"—the key is to unbundle the traits and give specific instructions. Instead of telling someone "don't be a dick," specify behaviors to stop doing:
Avoid interrupting
Refrain from sarcastic comments
Use respectful language
Saying "stop being a dick" is ineffective because the person may interpret it as a personal attack or misfire in understanding. Instead, precise behaviors help reshape perception and behavior efficiently.