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At the core of this phenomenon lies childhood experiences, particularly the nature of love and attachment formed early in life. When a child's primary caregivers—often fathers or mothers—offer conditional love—loving only when certain behaviors are exhibited—the child's nervous system becomes accustomed to receiving love that isn't unconditional. In such environments, affection, validation, and acceptance are tied to specific actions or achievements, creating a subconscious belief that love must be earned or fought for.