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Rabbi Jacobson critiques societal stereotypes that equate silence with strength. He points out that silence can be a strategic choice—sometimes the wisest decision—whereas in many cases, society's push for toughness discourages emotional expression altogether. This creates an environment where men are discouraged from crying, expressing pain, or seeking connection beyond superficial interactions.
He highlights that many men, especially those who project outward confidence, may harbor deep insecurities. These insecurities often manifest as aggression or arrogance—defense mechanisms masking inner vulnerability. Like the porcupine, which appears intimidating with its needles but is actually fragile underneath, these outward signs of strength conceal fears and feelings of inadequacy.