I remember thinking my parents didn't know anything in a dumb moment of being a kid; Of course they know a whole lot more than me. What's interesting is that years later I started to come to the realisation that my parents were more than that, they were people too. It made me a little embarrassed that I had questioned their logic when it came to parenting me on occasions, and also taken them to task over some of their own life decisions. Realistically they were as flawed as I am now, as any human being is, and were just doing the best they could do. Now they are both gone, I feel I have the need to tell them of my epiphany. Too little, too late.
Your story, the fellow having the noggin operation, touched me. I think I just dropped myself in his position and it hit me how momentous this event is, and how valuable life really is in the grand scheme of things.
Priorities...Yes, a good point. I feel Faith and I mostly have ours straight, mostly. Although of course, no one is perfect and so like most people we run off the rails. Fortunately we are the types to recognise it and address it.
I really hope the chap has a successful operation and the Power of Attorney is not needed.
Don't we all as kids my friend, but even worse, then we grow into teenagers and become young "know all's".
At times even secretly sneering at sound advice. Then real life starts and some of us say; "Oh, if only I had listened to my parents".
I know this is personal, but I will share. I only had a gran and a mom as parents, the gran was one of the wisest persons that I know to this day, but she died when I was 13. I digress, let's get back to the story.
When I came out of the army I met a young girl that walked past our house every day, at first we became friends and later developments resulted in us marrying. Me at 19 and her at 17.
My mom warned me repeatedly, as for some reason she didn't like the girl, but I justified by the fact that her parents didn't like me as I had long hair and a motorbike.
So I started in a construction apprenticeship and worked all over the country. We had one daughter and another child on the way. But there was a secret going on that I didn't know about.
For some reason that I forget I went home 2 days earlier than my normal fortnight weekend visits and here I found she and her ex boyfriend had gone on a fishing camping trip.
If only I had listened to my mom!
To pay my dues I stayed in a loveless marriage for 18 years, as I didn't want my children to grow up without a father like I had to and then it ended. They had finished school and started working and it was time for me to go.
When I buried my mom, I apologized to her.
They put the guy into a coma today and it's not a growth, but cancer on the left frontal lobe of his brain.
The doctor warned that they might not get it all out and if not then he will be enrolled for a chemo series.
Apparently he will not be able to do anything for the next 5 months.
What a stinker.
Show me someone that has never ran off the rails mate, we all have derailments from time to time, but it is the corrections that matter lol.
Cheers and thaks!
That's a personal story you share but one that offers a lot of value, and lessons. It's funny how life works out but it's just life I guess and all we can do is the best we can do.
What a shame for your mate, cancer. I hope it works out for him and he handles the chemo process as best he can.
Thank you Galen.
That chemo process is an ugly bugger and we have already three time been closely involved with it.
Two cases were terminal and thankfully one case survived after a stem cell transplant.
Hair falling out, severe nausea, weakness and a lot of other complications with that chemo stuff.
My friend brought his mother down, as he is only allowed one visitor per day and they are staying here for two weeks to take his mother to visit him every day.
So, let's see how it goes.
Such an emotionally draining time on everyone, and especially so on the patient.
Totally agreed my friend!