A man should integrate his feminine without surrendering ruthlessness or reason, while a woman should integrate her masculine without losing the soulfulness of compassion or sensuality.
A man moves toward the feminine to become more beautiful through eros, while a woman moves toward the masculine to become more beautiful through logos.
Both grow more virtuous and radiant: the woman transcends emotional limits to become agentic and respectable, while the man transcends sterile reasoning to embrace the spiritual and, through warmth, become soulfully lovable.
Each must move toward the other to incorporate the other within themselves and become whole.
A man who lets the feminine possess him becomes weak and ineffectual, while a woman who lets the masculine possess her becomes cold and egotistical.
Integration is not being subsumed but incorporating, thereby synthesizing something more beautiful.
When gendering the archetypes: the poet/lover is the feminine chaos principle, the warrior is the masculine chaos principle, and the magician/wizard is the governing logos—the order-bringing masculine.
The tyrannical lover is enslaved to emotions and desire. The tyrannical warrior is enslaved to violence and revenge. The tyrannical magician is enslaved to logic and pragmatism.
The integrated lover is magnetic for being attuned to beauty, the integrated warrior is magnetic for possessing the courage to risk and protect, and the integrated magician is magnetic for the authority they radiate in governance and discernment.
Integration channels an aspect without letting that aspect define the whole; possession makes the aspect the defining category. Thus the integrated are paradoxical, while the possessed are one-dimensionally binary.
There is no apex masculine without an integrated anima, nor apex feminine without an integrated animus.
To integrate is to individuate—a stable paradox—and in reaching that stage the individual becomes sovereign, a true king or queen respectively.
Deep.