I am one person that please anyone around me not knowing that i was doing myself more harm than good. Learn how to say in this life if not people will use you like tissue paper
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I am one person that please anyone around me not knowing that i was doing myself more harm than good. Learn how to say in this life if not people will use you like tissue paper
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My dear, it's not just you... I'm still working on saying No to some people 😢
I never know how to say no before because I don't want to displease people. It lead me to living people's life
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One data friend came asking me for 10k help . I don't have the money so I told her, am really sorry, i don't have 10k now please
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I thought she will understand me knowing that if i have ,i will surely give. But her action immediately i said, i don't have 10k surprised me
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She became so angry and said, all her hope was in me, why should I say ,i don't have it. Who is that person that told me not to give her money. This is not Blessing i know
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The statement, this is not Blessing i know touched me so much thank from that day, i began to think, what is the meaning of this? I said to myself, you have been used enough. It is all over. I learned how to say no. The outcome?
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The outcome was that those friends left me. I came to realize that they were close to me not that they love me but because they were gaining from me
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Are you living the life you love?
Or are you living people's life?
Do you know how to say no?
What was that no you said that saved you?
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I know how to say "No," but I don't like it... I can imagine your story happening to me at some point, but while I (try to) give a lot, I only give what I can when I can and I let people know that I rarely prioritize them over myself.
I am concluding with this word of wisdom from Nelson Mandela
Peasing someone is not at all good and we should never do it.
I disagree, pleasing someone is a really admirable thing, but some people don't deserve it. What you should learn isn't "only care about myself" but it's "I shouldn't hurt myself to please someone else."
@ijelady
sometimes we really have to say no, other wise all are take us for granted. U didn’t have the amount it’s not your problem. You did nothing wrong. But the idea is that you showed how a good person you are 🌸
I'm thankful I've never been in the situation @ijelady have been in, but I know someone who sacrifices a lot of herself to please her family. It feels like her efforts are unrewarded. If she made less effort on them. I know they won't mind.
we need to think of ourselves in the firs place