One of the financial nuances we fail to admit is that the state of entitlement is naturally inculcated. There's a reason why we're entitled, it's not human nature that's alien. People are born entitled because they didn't choose to be born.
Living comes with incurred expenses, this is why we work, save, budget, plan, and eventually spend. So, the process of entitlement is causal.
We incur expenses by being connected or relates to others. The instinct of entitlement comes in the form of parent to children's relationships.
When people choose to birth children, these children have the right to be automatically entitled and this is because they didn't choose to be born.
So whether we have jobs, or not, paid or underpaid, being owed or not, the sentiment of entitlement cannot from kids remains
because they're unable to cater to themselves, and secondly, they need to be nurtured it's a systemic financial process of life.
So early entitlement is incurred, the expectations of entitlement should come naturally, because it's life's natural process, and this is why people are always skeptical about the cost of owning and running a family.
However, we expect the sense of entitlement to wane when people begin to develop the Intuitive skills of dependence. However, entitlement remains especially with the type of affiliation we form.
The Cultural form Of Financial Entitlement
For example, a woman is entitled to a man's resources or means and vice versa, when they're romantically or familially affiliated, so it's difficult to establish entitlement with a stranger, a familiarity is struck, and we begin to feel too comfortable because of their goodwill.
This is why I believe entitlement differs culturally and psychologically. While it's a state of mind that's meant to be natural, it's important to understand that it is meant to take a different form as we progress.
However, growth is subjective, especially when it comes to money and finance, some people are limited by health imperatives (like me), there are others who are limited by negating cultural beliefs and practices.
This means that some people's cultural background, makes them think they aren't supposed to be financially independent
......they feel they're unable to eschew values that should be financially rewardable, and people like this are why we have families that exist in perpetual mediocrity.
Sometimes, entitlement naturally dies when our expectations are not met, this disappointment might lead to an awakening.
While we need people in life it's important to understand that we cannot completely trust others to come through for us when we need them the most.
Complete Reliability Makes Disappointment Hurts More
Trusting people complexly is a form of entitlement, but we cannot help this, because that is how we're emotionally wired.
There are people who have trusted others to establish business relationships, but in the end, the promises of these people fail and millions in loss are incurred, and trust is severed.
While people cannot completely establish 100% certainty when it comes to business relationships, we should understand that even experts and professionals can be wrong in their estimations and assertions. Why? They're humans, and life can change irrespective of what we say or believe in.
So people establish a different form of entitlement, but the main point is that age, growth, and experience are what diversify the form of entitlement we often cultivate.
For example, In a place like Nigeria, the sense of entitlement is more than in some other places and this is because of the lack of personal development and self-awareness.
Having a sophisticated sense of independence is one of the ways to obliterate natural entitlement.
when people rise above their expectations, disappointment, or sense of loss, to do those things they expect others to do for themselves.
It Boils Down To Money Again.
Money is where the biggest form of entitlement comes in and we cannot take away this fact or its relevance.
Without the psychological nuances that come with money, things like retention will be impossible, this is why it's important to shape the mindset and keep learning about different ways to restructure the sense of entitlement. It's an individual journey.
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This was my case some years back. My mind was totally structured on getting financial help from my uncle because I lived with him. I felt entitled and when my expectations wasn't meant, I was mad at him. Not until my big brother opened my eyes and warned me to stop feeling entitled as it wasn't my uncles responsibility to sponsor my education but my parents.
I shared this experience with a friend in Europe and she asked if it's part of Nigerian culture to feel entitled to people 😂🤣🤣..I couldn't stop laughing . And you just confirm it with this statement below 👇
Now I know better, I no longer feel entitled to anyone... it's my past lifestyle... personal development has assisted me in understanding life better
True, unfortunately, natural entitlement is and should be limited to one's parents alone. We can only hope on others and our expectations shouldn't be based on more than hope alone when it comes to other people. This mindset helps us to center our mind on prepared for anything. While it might be in our nature to do otherwise, we just have to train ourselves. I had those expectations on my uncle too and now I know better. A lot of people also carve that entitlement around others and get angry when their entitlement isn't met.
It's more in Nigeria like we both affirmed. Our cultural and psychological nuances are centered on this parameter.
I've experienced a few rude awakenings that have chipped away at my sense of entitlement. I think growing up as a young child it often feels natural to be entitled. But when we become an adult, it no longer feels so. It sometimes becomes a trap that prevents us from breaking free from past conditioning and create our own path in life. Dependency on other people comes with a lot of downsides. Better to strive to be self-reliant as a primary way and depend on other people as a secondary way of getting things done.
Even adults are entitled when it becomes habitual. There are people who find it difficult to break free from that entitlement mentality, it's difficult for them to do so.
However, we learn the hard way that people are humans just like we are and anything is possible, dissapointments and all.
Right. It's a comfortable place to be in and have people do things for the person while he/she lays back and enjoy. Great that reality will make us realise that mentality doesn't serve us much and actually prevents us from growing or evolving.
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My mind wandered off to another form of entitlement when it comes to investing. We expect to be able to hand our money off to somebody and earn a yield without any effort on our part. And we complain when the investment goes bad where we lose some or all of our money. In many meaningful investments, one also has to put forth some effort in addition to money to enjoy the yield.
I know that HBD comes to mind. Is it too good to be true that we put in HBD and earn a 20% return risk-free? Not entirely. It's propped up by all of us continuing to blog, comment, and upvote. There is some effort, some human energy, entering the system.
When it comes to yields in investment, that is perhaps a totally different thing. Yields can go wrong, as for 20% APR on HBD, it's actually not permanent. It can change, and it will change overtime. However, everyone who is saving to earn that 20% knows it's not stable, so no entitlement.
This is really enlightening, Now I understand where it comes from.
I used to feel entitled before now but my eyes have seen shege so many times.
On my personal development journey, I've learned not depend on anyone if I want to get things done. Not even my husband because I could be disappointed and I don't want that.
Thanks for sharing.
Well, you and your husband already share a special affinity, so it's inevitable that you'll be subconsciously entitled to him and vice versa, but you're right to say, even it's important not to depend on even the people we're emotionally related to.
It's tough but I do think there is a sentiment of entitlement. It's hard to fight it but I grew up without it. So it didn't really bother me too much because I knew that I had to work for it. Financial hardship as a kid just sticks to you.
Yeah, there are people who grew up without it, certainly it helps with understanding one's roles and the importance of growing up to be one's own man. It happened differently for a lot of us in Nigeria, but we're learning to be better.