What do you do to maintain a positive attitude in difficult times?
This question seems more appropriate to answer at this stage of my life, because I believe that I have lived through a lot at this point in my existence, and my personal experiences, both good and bad, have taught me certain things, including how to maintain a positive attitude in the face of adversity, which is sometimes not so easy, because it is one thing to say it and another to live it. So, based on this, I will share with you some tools that I use in those difficult days.
I have discovered that when going through difficult times, one of the things that helps us move forward is cleansing the soul. And how do we cleanse the soul? By letting the tears flow along with our emotions and feelings... taking a break, where we give ourselves permission to feel, to simply exist, but then, after that, wiping away those tears and moving forward with what lies ahead. After doing that, our vision calms down a bit along with everything else. Another thing we must keep in mind is that nothing lasts forever, neither for good nor for bad. I have proven this many times, so thinking about this, some burdens become lighter.
Once, in my first job, I found myself in a rather stressful situation because I was put in charge of a supervisor who had to train me on the job and was quite uncompromising and abusive, one of those people who thinks nothing is good enough and everything is wrong, as if the sun didn't shine on her every day. Every day, working alongside her was torture, as she also abused her authority over me. At that time, I really needed the job, and I didn't have any other job offers that could rescue me from the clutches of that stubborn woman.
At first, I tried to do my best, arrive on time, always have a smile on my face, and learn as quickly as I could, hoping that once I learned the ropes, they would take me out of her hands. At least that's what our superiors had told me. One day, she sent me to buy her breakfast, which was not part of my job description. In previous days, I had done it to be nice, but when I saw that she was taking advantage of me, I confronted her and told her so. She didn't like it and complained that I hadn't learned the job.
Fortunately, our superiors asked for references from where we had worked together and received very good feedback about me. They were told that I was always willing to help and that she would leave the area and I would be left alone to cover for her. The result was that she was transferred to another smaller branch and I began to be sent alone to the areas to be audited, which was my job.
What helped me here was that I was always willing to learn and, despite the bad working environment, I tried to keep my good humor, and that was noticeable to others. Besides, my work began to speak for me despite her, and although there were difficult days, I kept my hopes up that it would be for a short time. On the day I was vulnerable, I remember locking myself in the bathroom, crying for a long time, wiped my tears, and moved on. I didn't leave as I suspect she wanted me to, and I moved on. In the process, I set my boundaries with everything and my fears, and that helped me to be respected and recognized.
So, it can be deduced that in every situation, there are positive things; you just have to learn to see them and take advantage of them. That helps you stay positive and bet on yourself.
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Crying is really effective, I can also attest to that. It will make you breath without that heavy load in your chest anymore. It'll make you feel lighter and a little good. I remember when I was heartbroken, I really forced myself to cry hard so that I can finally move on. It helps luckily.
Anyways, so glad to know that you didn't let her do what she wants to you and fight back. And it's so good to know that the people in that company are all reasonable and give you the chance to prove yourself. At least you found your peace after
That's right, my friend, crying frees us up a little, allowing us to take a necessary break to center ourselves and move on.
And thank God that company was consistent and reasonable, and in the end, everything turned out well. Thank you for visiting🌻
Thank you very much friend for sharing the ways to face difficult situations.
I believe that yes, tears are an essential element to cleanse the soul and release tensions and pains.
Many times I have heard that men don't cry and it is one of the biggest nonsense I have ever heard.
Happy weekend to you.
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All human beings have the right to cry—men, women, children. We are human beings, and crying is a way to balance our souls, calm our fears, and ease all kinds of pain. So, my friend, there's no taboo about it. It's time to cry. Cry, and then move on. A hug.