This is a tough one, this week! There are people in our lives that we certainly miss and being able to narrow it down is a bit tough.
I’m going to go with a group of friends that I miss. Thankfully none are dead that I’m aware of but the group of friends we had when we skated all the time. That large friendship is what I think I miss a fair amount. Nowadays, getting older and with jobs, kids and stuff, it’s easy to lose contact with them. Some I’m really glad I lost contact with as they are shitty people but some of them were pretty good friends. Turns out a bunch of them were just selfish, if you don’t reach out to them they don’t make the effort so that was something I realized later on, and why we aren’t in contact anymore. We used to have a lot of fun skating, partying and hanging out. We were a pretty tight group of dudes, skated daily, partied weekly and overall had a good time but kept it minimally shitty/violent. I wasn’t the glue they tied them together that some of them were but I wasn’t on the fringes either. Having a big group of friends like that is something I miss and hope to have again one day, physical friends. It will probably be through the little man where we make those types of friends again but a group of them is just something I’m looking forward to.
People drift in and out of our lives I guess, it's happened to me also. Some I see as good people to lose and others I really miss so much...I guess it's just how it is and a good reason to be present in the moments we have with those we value.
I'm not into big friends-groups and have found I've become much more selective as I've gotten older. I want to know friends are there for the right reason. I guess I only trust a few, very few, and it's those I call friends and the rest are acquaintances or strangers.
Thanks for playing along this week.
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Yeah I hear you on friends versus acquaintances. I don't have any of them anymore for one reason or another so I think that's probably why I'm thinking I miss the group. Only two or three of them were good friends, the others were acquaintances and the others were less than that.
I miss people from the past, but I guess they're gone for a reason...I find it harder with those who have died for whatever reason.
Yeah for sure. People you get rid of or get rid of you have done it for one reason or another. Someone who has passed doesn’t have that same situation and it feels like it was cut short.
ENGAGEtokens.Aw, yeah, I look back to being a kid surfing together - as you know, surfing and skating had the same kinda of vibe. Golden times. I think you'd be lucky to have a group of mates like that in older age - somehow, they fall by the wayside with the responsibilities of life I guess.
Yeah for sure! Skating and surfing friends are of the same cloth, just different place to do it!
I miss the parties and being able to call one or a different one to hang out for different things. Not so much the alcohol and stuff but a bunch of people just hanging out. We fell out of touch as I was getting closer to finishing college and haven't gotten back since. I don't miss some of them for sure but some I do.
I think that as these changes occur, our relationships are also transformed, usually the dynamic with our children leads us to relate to new people or simply new groups are emerging, I'm sure you can have that again and hopefully with better people 🤗.
Yeah I know it will happen one of these days, it's definitely something to look forward to. Kids change the dynamic for sure, a lot of the people I used to hang out with don't have kids or have kids with strangers by accident so it's not the same dynamic as a marriage purposeful kids and all that.
Appreciate the perspective you added! Thanks.
Yes, totally, they are different situations.
In any case, having friendships is a key factor for our well-being.
Blessings ✨
Of all the friends we make in our lives, there are few who stay close, those are our good friends. Life is changing and with it, moments like the ones you are missing are left behind, but there is hope! You can always make a good friend again and create new moments that will be as happy and enjoyable as the past. I hope you get a new group of friends better than the one you are missing.
Yeah for sure the new friends I make will be better than the ones I'm missing hahaha. The group were close but weren't free of their issues that's for sure. I agree that people come and go depending on the circumstances in our lives, I appreciate the perspective you offered!
Ahhhhh. I have a maniac group of friends, many more than I've ever had. Most of my life was small group or alone and I've always liked it that way.
But I sobered up in AA and every time I go to a meeting I find a person or two that I really like. After 30 years it's now a big number :) It's a kind of tough way to get to be one of the popular kids.....
Good for you man, sobriety isn't easy! Having a thing like that helps, even if it's for different reasons. I have neighbors and people nearby that are acquaintances but definite friends, only one maybe. Some other factors play into it but I think one of the hardest ones is around here work is so far away that people can't connect locally like that. I was driving 40 miles 1 way to get to work and no one lives in our area lol so that among others things is one of my biggest challenges that I think we are going to fix soon.
It is unfortunate that many of those who pass through our lives are passing, and this is not bad, because it makes us live very good moments that are treasured in our hearts as valuable memories.
That is why we must take advantage of the here and now, because those who are here today may not be here tomorrow. You are fortunate to have lived those good times with all your friends. I understand that you miss those times.
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