I'd love to read your theories about how people assign intent! People hear me say stupid things and ascribe it to malice, but I have never knowingly offended; just thoughtlessly, stupidly; and yes, with a degree in English and decades of living, I should by now be able to comprehend how things I say will sound to the listener. But I never anticipate the slammed doors, the anger, the reactions to things I say. How can I be so inept? "Mortification of Silence" is what I must practice, but I forever keep offering feedback instead, not just to writers and bloggers, but friends and family. People don't really want to know what we think. They want affirmations. They want trophies, upvotes, rewards, but not constructive criticism. The occasional exception (a writer like you) is what keeps me from remaining in hibernation. Thanks for your thoughts on this. You sound very wise! Getting angry is the usual knee-jerk reaction. Trying to see where the commenter is coming from: who does that? You do! And that gives me hope. :)
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