This is unimaginable! Ben screamed. Nk, can you please wake me up from this dream? Who is the young guy I saw you walking down to the school canteen this afternoon and holding hands with? Oh, that's UC, my fiancee,Nk replied. Fiancee? Since when? Ben kept asking several questions at a time with a shocking face. That means you have been cheating on me, Nk, Ben said. Cheating on you? How, where, and when? Nk asked Ben!
Ben and Nk have been good friends since the day Nk stepped her legs in the university. She could vividly remember how Ben assisted her with documentation, as they were in the same department, but Ben was already at 300 level. She found Ben to be this cheerful guy, and she just admires his personality. This made Nk always look for Ben in her free time. Ben knows how to cheer her up, especially when she feels down. Through their random discussion one day, they both discovered that they were from the same hometown but a different village. Ben liked Nk more and wouldn't stop telling her how he would visit her father's house one day unexpectedly.
Their friendship kept waxing stronger, to the point that Ben couldn't stay a day without seeing Nk's face. Nk, on the other hand, didn't have anything attached to this friendship; it was unknowingly revealed to her that Ben was actually thinking of an intimate relationship without voicing it out. She thinks Ben is disciplined enough not to act silly sometimes, even when she is with him alone in his rented apartment off campus. There was nothing like intimacy in the relationship; it was more casual, and that made Nk feel safe with Ben at any time.
Nk's course of study requires lots of practicals every now and then, and most of them looked complicated; however, she would always run to Ben with her practical assignments, and Ben would be happy to assist her with them. Lots of times, Ben would drag Nk to night class so they could study together. He did motivate Nk to become the best she can be with her studies, and she kept saying in her mind, Who is this young guy who is so kind to a lady this much without asking for anything in return? But then she was wrong. Ben was actually preparing her future wife without making his intentions known to Nk. On two occasions, Nk celebrated her birthday while she was still an undergraduate at the university, and Ben made sure to get her a wonderful gift. One of the Christmas holidays when they were all at their hometown, Ben did visit Nk's house, introduced himself to her mom as a friend, and requested that Nk visit his house as well, which she did, and they kept getting along.
To Ben, Nk gave him all the hope that all is well with their friendship. He never expected a no for an answer whenever he felt like letting his intentions known to Nk. UC, Nk's fiancee,stays very far away from the university, so he doesn't visit Nk more often; however, they do most of their communication through the phone. So the day Uc traveled down from Lagos State, Nigeria, to Enugu, where Nk is studying, was the day Ben saw both of them together and got devastated. After the visit, Ben was forced to express himself to NK, letting his intentions known to her for the first time since they were close friends; however, he didn't take it lightly with Nk when she told him officially that she was engaged to UC.
Ben felt his heart broken. He felt disappointed and depressed and walked out of Nk upon this revelation. For two days, Ben refused to attend his lectures; he was a final-year student then working on his project and preparing for his final exams. Nk tried reaching out to him, but he couldn't take her calls or respond to her messages. One morning, he texted Nk and said, If I fail my final year exam, just know that you are responsible. Nk got worried and then involved Collins, who is a close male friend to Ben. She explained the issues between her and Ben, and Collins blamed Ben for not defining his friendship with Nk all the years they were together and also blamed Nk for attaching herself so much to Ben when she knew that she already had a fiancee. To Collins, Nk toiled with Ben's emotions, and to NK, she feels that Ben should have been bold enough to express himself instead of keeping his intentions to himself. Overall, Nk accepted her mistake but wasn't totally so hard on herself since Ben never asked her to marry him in the first place; however, she apologized to him for hurting his emotions that much.
It was very difficult for Ben to let go and forget the past. Their friendship became sour, but indeed,time healed every wound. Today Ben is married with his new family and Nk too, and gradually their friendship got restored to family friendship involving their spouses.
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Not defining the relationship we have with people can cause problems and that what exactly happened to Ben. He shouldn't have just been a nice guy without telling what's on his mind.
He was nurturing NK not knowing that she wouldn't be his. It was destined to be that way and he was there to play a part for you in the university and nothing more.
I enjoyed reading your story and learned a good lesson.
No one can correctly read our minds unless we express ourselves better. Unfortunately, Ben couldn't do so but blamed Nk for his short coming. It's a lesson for both of them
Glad to hear that you got value
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Hmmm hmmm Nkem ma’am
Is it what I’m thinking?
But oh Nk didn’t try , she could have at least made it known to Ben that she had a man
Haha 😂😂, babe, what are you thinking? It's not my own Nk oo 🤣
Well, I think you are right here but why should a man like Ben seal up his mouth? Isn't he supposed to be bold enough to express himself to a lady? Lolz
Yes but maybe he was waiting for the right time
You know the right time is always important
Hehehehe...the right time 😍👍✅
Ben, like many young men out there keep watching and waiting for the right time to disclose their intentions, thinking their targets are equally in on the affection and once the answer is a no, or 'i of you like a brother," the love once shared quickly becomes sour just like Ben and NK
He has a full hope not knowing that Nk wasn't in the same page with him
I am sure he learned to be outspoken in his next relationship and that Nk too didn't repeat being so close to a guy she doesn't have intention of something intimate
The issue with Ben just like you said is because he was not aware of what is happening in the background and he was living on assumption that is not true
Living in assumption sometimes isn't too great 😃👍
It is really great
Mommy, welcome to Inkwell 😁😁
Ben is at fault, he should have opened up earlier because as ladies we can't tell if a guy likes us or not with the way they carry their egos in their pockets 😂😂😂
I like that they became good friends after everything.
Oh yes, I also feel that Ben is at fault even though Nk has her own side of the game to blame
However, it's nice to know that they ended up being good friends
Thanks for visiting 🥰🤗
Really a great reminder to focus upon communication in relationships and also most importantly healing over time.
Loved your article
Exactly...the place of communication cannot be overlooked at all
Glad you love my article
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Again, welcome!
Many thanks for the warm welcome
All information are well noted
Some guys are usually in this kind of situationship. Assuming that the other person will just "know" without them speaking up.
It's good they are all moving forward with their families.
#dreemerforlife
Nothing beats quality communication in a relationship
It's an attribute most people are yet to uncover
Thanks for coming around my lovely Dreemer 😍
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What?
I know some guys like Ben who aren't always too quick to define a relationship until they are sure of how they feel or about the lady. But for me, I can't be going on a wild goose chase - if I see that you aren't forthcoming with your intentions, I'll bluntly ask. I don't like what I hate, hehehe.
#dreemerforlife
Haha, this babe no gree for anybody oo 😂..I think I love your vibe with this kind of relationship
Asking that's having nice communication always save the day