The first time I saw her, I was in SS1. She had been in the school since Jss1 but due to the fact that we were close to 300 students in my set, it was almost possible keeping tabs on everyone. The fact we were never in the same class since we came to school was also a factor.
We had different arms by arm I mean, Jss1a, Jss1b and so on. I guess Gracious was in Jss1c till the senior secondary level. It was then that we were now assigned and posted in the same class, the science class.
The first time I even noticed her, She seemed to already know who I was. Which was a little weird because I never knew She even existed.
She seemed to give me attention and was always looking for my trouble. I didn't think much of it. The ladder to our friendship wasn't that tall because I gave in.
Before we were promoted to the next class, we were already best of friends. She was like my right and left hand.
One day, after classes a friend of mine Eben by name told me, "Ben, I think Gracious has a crush on you".
Yeah, I know, no one believes that until they've seen it for themselves. I didn't believe it too because as much as I didn't want to admit it, She was more into bad guys.
I know this sounds strange but it's totally true, you know this saying "Good girls love bad guys". I didn't believe it until I encountered it for myself.
There was a guy I knew She had her eye on. I didn't think He liked Her as much as She did Him. I couldn't tell her that because She would think I was jealous.
I never thought I would like her that way but I did eventually. I was going to tell her about my feelings, but I couldn't because if She didn't feel the way then I would loose my best friend.
You must think I was a big coward but anyone would be if in the same situation. At least if not everyone about 70 percent of the male population would do the same.
I couldn't tell her and when I mustard the courage She had already accepted the other guys proposal. I was heartbroken majorly from the fact that I would have to be friends with her boyfriend.
In no time I was already friends with Him. He was a nice guy. I mean everyone likes a nice guy. But the fact that I missed the opportunity was very painful. I missed the boat and there was no turning back.
At some point I made peace with the fact that I had lost her as a girlfriend. One gift God gave Man is the ability to adapt in every situation and move on.
I could see She wasn't always happy with Him because they kept being childish breaking up and coming back again. Even though I had missed the boat, but I built a better one.
Ouch! Really painful, you could have been something more than just a friend. Nice story 👏. Thanks for sharing.
Yes, we have the gift of adapting in any situation even though we feel hurt when an opportunity passes us by.
Really true
Thanks
Honestly I see no reason why men should be scared of saying how they feel. Yea it’s a two-way thing. It’s either a yes or no. I see it as a game of truth. But all the same, beautiful story dear.
Wow sorry man, next time make sure you pick up courage and act fast. The girl even gave you green lights self, no dey dull yourself next time oo
I feel your pain especially having to befriend her boyfriend; that's like applying salt to the wound. Glad to hear that though you missed that boat, you built better one😊.
It's great that everything turned out well in the end. That's what's important. Besides, these experiences always provide us with good life lessons from which to learn and grow as people. Blessings.
Missing your opportunity can be very painful. So sorry dear. I'm glad you were able to move on
Yeah this was very common then in school, crushing on someone but lacking the confidence to speak can most times be a loss or a blessing in disguise
I'm glad you built a better boat
Ops, you should have make friends with gracious and gradually you guys will be close enough to express to one another.
Aww. It's always painful when you want more but can't get it. Beautiful write-up boss
There is a saying that says "if you love someone walk up to the person and tell the person." You would have told gracious that you like her.
You could have been way more than just friends but you let the opportunity pass you by, it can hurt and haunt you for long..
Got over it fast though I valued the friendship