I am just a year or so behind you on the race of life, and it has taught so many lessons. It is interesting that as you say when we walk to long on the pathway of memories, we seem to focus so much on what brings pain and not growth. What the garden has taught me is to never go back, it does not always help. And lucky for me, I have found a partner that acts as the antidote to ever unlocking the door that leads to the past. I hope that your journey will become a beautiful garden with blooms and plants that feed on the bad memories so that they only become beautiful.
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Very interesting to read your feedback on this subject! These past few weeks of looking back have taught me quite a bit ... even though they were melancholic moments. I think I had to do one (hopefully) last mourning of the past relationships that can no longer be and let them exist as memories rather than missed opportunities. The reminiscing became un-healthy and anti-growth was the wondering "what if" I had chosen another path or stayed in a particular place or with a particular person.
I too have found so much growth in my current relationship which couldn't have happened if I wasn't in a particular time and a particular place (Guatemala, 2016) which, oddly enough, was all arranged by my former partner. Funny how life is!
In all I am glad I walked memory lane at the start of this new cycle but, I need to close that chapter for a long, long time and enjoy all the wonder going on around me here & now.
Thank you so much for sharing your special memories like this. And yes, life works in mysterious ways, like the meeting you mentioned! Small things in life that add up over time. Maybe you have come across the book, but Milan Kundera's The Lightness of Being really touches upon everything you mentioned. One particularly beautiful but kind of tricky thing to wrap your head around is that "what if" moments. Life does not give us a second or third chance to see what happens if we made different choices. It makes life a really difficult thing, but it emphasises how important choices are!