I find it hard at times to read these posts about @galenkp's & Your father. It is a not too distant future on my horizon with my father also. And I am the one far away. Will it be next year or 10 years from now? That is the only unknown. The rest will play out with eerily similar results I fear.
You both (brothers) are showing your best faces here and now. At least from what I see and read on your postings of it, that is my opinion.