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RE: Merlin

in OCD4 years ago

Sorry to hear about your loss. It's the hardest part of being a pet lover especially when they have been part of our lives for so long. I had to put down my old girl of 19 and a half years old a few years back. It was the only humane thing left to do, it broke my heart and I could tell she didn't want to go and wanted to spend every last minute she had with me but she was deteriorating fast and only had a few days left anyway. Merlin will be waiting for you on rainbow bridge until you can be reunited again.

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Thanks for your nice words. Yes it's so hard. You clearly have been through it and understand. We're going ok though. It's when I call for him forgetting he's not here, or expect him to jump up here on my desk when it hits home and I feel the grief the most. Such a difficult time.

It's not helped by the fact my 84 year old dad is in a nursing home with dementia and other issues and hasn't now eaten or drunk anything for almost two days. That's all taking an inevitable path also. A fairly stressful time for the old (usually tough) G-dog.

It'll all work out though, it's just life.

Thanks for your reply. I appreciate it.

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Oh no way your dad too! definitely a rough patch for you these days. It's tough but part of life, appreciate them while they are here if you have a workable relationship. It's ok not to be tough sometimes. As for you kitty, it will be weird for a while, probably a few weeks. I don't know if they do that in Aus but here they sent me a paw print of my old girl, it doesn't bring her back but I have a physical memory of her and I still have it. Death feels like a thousand swords to the heart but knowing they are in a better place not suffering anymore helps, time makes it easier to accept. I saw something the other day about that, maybe it will be good for you.

A father lost his son too soon and would cry over his loss endlessly, then one day god took him by the hand and brought him to the gates of heaven and it was full of little children holding a lit candle waiting for their loved ones to join them. The father couldn't find his little boy so he asked about his where-abouts. Then he saw him by himself and the candle wasn't lit, he then asked why he wasn't with the other children. The boy then replied: I keep lighting it but your tears keeps putting it out. I can only join the rest of the children when you are ok and my candle can stay lit. I thought it was a touching story for anyone experiencing grief or the imminent loss of a loved one. They will always watch over us where ever they are. I hope things get better for you soon. Hugz from Canada xox

Dad has been ailing for some time now. The dementia means he doesn't recall my name, or who I am unless prompted. It's pretty sad and yes, it's a difficult time.

I really appreciate your message though, that little story is touching and has a good message, one I will remember, so thank you. Really, I appreciate it.

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I'm glad it made you feel a bit better. It doesn't take away the pain from your situation tho. My friend is going thru that too right now but I never had to go thru that challenge, it can't be easy. Dementia has to be brutal on the person and their loved ones, what a thing to go thru, takes a lot of strength.

It's terrible. Hard on us because we have memories. He's blissfully unaware.

I literally 20 minutes ago got off the phone with them...Wasn't pleasant. I won't go into it here, but I think things will run their course quite quickly.

That's unfortunate especially when you can see it coming. He might not remember so easily but he's still your dad, like you said, you have memories and can see the difference from when he was in his glory. As long as he's blissfully unaware, you know that you have done your job at making sure he is happy and comfortable in is illness. I forget it's daytime there (middle of the night here but I live the vampire life)

Yes, you're right, memories are what we will hold on to. I don't want him to suffer and that's my main priority.

Lol...Vampire life. It's 7:25pm here now...Dark outside. Get's dark around 5:15 in winter.

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