Ayer compartí de la primera necesidad con la que nace cada niño; la Conexión. Hoy hablaré de una segunda necesidad, la Contención.
Yesterday I shared the first need with which each child is born; the connection. Today I will talk about a second need, containment.
¿Qué es contención emocional?
¿What is emotional containment?
Contención consiste en sostener las emociones de los niños a través del acompañamiento y el ofrecimiento de vías adecuadas para la expresión de los sentimientos. Se utiliza cuando se presentan emociones displacenteras como el enojo, el miedo o la tristeza.
Containment consists in sustaining children's emotions through accompaniment and the offer of appropriate ways for the expression of feelings. It is used when displacing emotions such as anger, fear or sadness are presented.
Los niños no tienen la capacidad total para calmarse por sí solos, por lo que es muy importante acompañarlos, realizar contacto físico, tomar en brazos, acariciar, abrazar. No omitir ni negar lo que sucede y por supuesto hablar de acuerdo a la edad del niño, sin mentirles.
Children do not have the total ability to calm down alone, so it is very important to accompany them, make physical contact, take in my arms, caress, hug. Do not omit or deny what happens and of course talk according to the child's age, without lying.
La verdad es que todos necesitamos contención, pero de niño, es imprescindible recibirla. Como adultos, seguiremos necesitándola. Jesús mismo muestra su disposición en darla, Él sabe que la requerimos.
The truth is that we all need containment, but as a child, it is essential to receive it. As adults, we will continue to need it. Jesus himself shows him to give it to him, he knows that we require it.
Contención: es lo segundo más importante que mamá debe dar.
Containment: It is the second most important that mom should give.
Al igual que un muro de contención tiene la finalidad de estabilizar la presión y contener la tierra, así mamá tendrá que ayudar a sus hijos a contener sus emociones. La contención que mamá genera es una capacidad para encargarse de sostener los sentimientos de sus hijos, a la vez es una necesidad que todo hijo tiene; aprender a contenerse.
Like a retaining wall, it has the purpose of stabilizing the pressure and containing the earth, so mom will have to help her children contain their emotions. The containment that Mom generates is an ability to take care of sustaining her children's feelings, at the same time it is a need that every child has; Learn to contain yourself.
Durante los primeros años de vida las emociones de un niño se centraran alrededor de mamá. Ella deberá enseñar a manejar las emociones que aún él no sabe. La contención lleva un proceso de cinco pasos y estos se deben dar de manera sistemática, hoy estudiaremos los dos primeros…
During the first years of life the emotions of a child will focus around mom. She must teach to handle the emotions he still does not know. Containment carries a process of * five steps * and these should be given systematically, today we will study the first two ...
CALMAR:
TO CALM:
Mamá da contención cuando calma, tomando a sus hijos en su pecho, abrazándolos en momentos críticos, allí le otorga un lugar seguro a eso que parece ser más grande que ellos. Ella toma esos sentimientos y los intercambia por serenidad.
Mom gives containment when he calms down, taking her children in her chest, hugging them at critical moments, there gives a safe place to what seems to be bigger than them. She takes those feelings and exchanges for serenity.
VALIDAR:
VALIDATE:
Mamá da contención cuando valida; es una necesidad de sentir las emociones como algo real y apropiado. Se valida básicamente escuchando y dando comprensión a esos sentimientos; sin minimizarlos, ni negarlos.
Mom gives containment when validated; It is a need to feel emotions as something real and appropriate. She validates basically listening and understanding those feelings; Without minimizing, or denying them.
No siempre va a resultar al primer intento, ni al segundo, ni al tercero, por lo que se sugiere tener paciencia, todos los niños son distintos, habrá días que como padres y madres se sentirán más tolerantes, pacientes, tranquilos y otros en que estarán cansados, a los niños les ocurre lo mismo. Cada situación es diferente por lo que hay que ir viendo las estrategias y ajustarlas a medida que se va profundizando en el conocimiento que tienen de sus hijos.
It will not always be the first attempt, nor to the second, nor to the third, so it is suggested to be patient, all children are different, there will be days that as fathers and mothers will feel more tolerant, patients, quiet and others in which They will be tired, the same happens to children. Each situation is different from what you have to see the strategies and adjust them as they deepen the knowledge of their children.
These strategies you mentioned are definitely things I do on a normal bases with my children. I’ve learned that talking and guiding them through tough times is so important. Validation is really important and I know my kiddos always look for this from me and their father.
Are you aware there is a Motherhood Community? The things you are writing about would be just right for that community of mothers. You’ll find many there whom share their stories and experiences and I think you would enjoy connecting there.
The OCD Community are for post topics that do not fit in any of the other listed communities.
Dear @mama-mimosa, we need your help!
The Hivebuzz proposal already got important support from the community. However, it lost its funding a few days ago when the HBD stabilizer proposal rose above it.
May we ask you to support it so our team can continue its work?
You can do it on Peakd, Ecency,
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