How do you know when you are true to yourself

in OCD4 years ago

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I'm impressed that you're willing to ask yourself the tough questions and openly consider the answers you've given. I am sorry that you are feeling sad about this.

I can suggest one that might offer another way.

This is a hard way to find your true values. You end up guessing how you might feel if you only did something. It takes at least one step on removing you.

You can instead try actively following a few lines of action and see how you really feel about it.

We know this from research with people who have suffered specific brain damage that prevents them from feeling a lot of emotions and has great difficulty making decisions.

So the key to finding your true values ​​may be to take action and then ask yourself honestly how you feel about what you are doing and the results you get.

If you find that you are confused after taking action, then I think you are having an emotion and you do not accept it because you have judgments about it - I can't really enjoy it because it is society It doesn't make enough money, it would be shocking to my parents and people like that.

If so, then you need to decide what matters most to you, your fantasies about what you should like, or the reality of what you really like.

If it turns out to be a struggle, you can comfort yourself by realizing that discovering your priorities and creating their lifestyle are two different things. One is an acknowledgment; The second is the decision. You may be able to give yourself the grace to accept your true reactions (no matter what you think you should like) and give yourself time to decide on your lifestyle afterward.

You may like these three things, yet decide to bring only two of them into your lifestyle because they fit best with your values.

You may need to cut yourself some slack and give yourself the grace to make some mistakes in order to find your true priorities and values.

Good luck to you.