As someone who has been living publicly on the internet for years now, there's always this pressure of trying to look perfect. May it be with how I present myself or with how I create content. I remember back then, when I would be on the last step of editing my videos and when it feels like it isn't up par to my standards, I discard the entire thing away, leaving me unproductive and insecure. It's only then when I got to collaborate with other artists that I learned to not put myself so much through the ringer. I need to allow room for mistakes for it's an avenue to grow. Through this realization, I allowed flaws in my content, which then led to people relating to me more because they see something that is part of their daily nuances. It has created a community where people celebrate imperfections as something beautiful for it is humane.
If you are a millennial, or even just someone who breathes internet air, you may have came across with the term "Cancel Culture". It's when an internet micro celebrity gets huge backlash resulting to a loss in their following count due to something bad that they did. Though I am a firm believer that people need to learn from their mistakes and get educated about it, I don't agree with totally canceling some of them. I think it's because I'm a creator myself and I know how hard it is to try to be perfect. It could also be with how I was raised as a kid, my mom have always taught me to be more empathetic towards others and share an open hand whenever someone needs help.
I once saw an interview about someone who has been publicly scrutinized for a wrong thing that they did and how it made their life into a living nightmare. If you're familiar with "Amalayer Girl", the one who's video went viral on the internet for shouting at a lady guard in one of the LRT stations in Manila, then that's the one I'm talking about. She lost her cool and completely flipped off. I don't condone whatever it is that she did but I also didn't like how that one video defined her whole life. As per the interview, her whole life turned completely upside down when that video made it on mainstream media. She lost friends and didn't had the courage to be out in public, causing her to lock herself up in her room. It led to depression up to to a point where she tried taking her own life. Even years passed, whenever she tried to look for jobs, companies wouldn't hire her because of that "Amalayer" video. It truly opened my eyes on how massive of an impact there is on to a person's lives once they get "cancelled". It's not just a social media slang but an extremely awful thing to experience knowing that not only do millions of people despise you, but also with how it can affect your professional and mental stability.
People make mistakes, it's what make us human. We are not and shouldn't be defined by a single thing that we made in the past. We are bound to grow, and part of it is failure. The internet is already filled with trolls and bashers, the least thing we could do is to be a more responsible user, and by that I mean being more empathetic towards the shortcomings of others, and giving them the support they need to reclaim what they have lost in the process. A healthy community is when people aren't afraid to clap for the success of others knowing that it's gonna be their turn soon. If someone completely turns their back on you once you committed a mistake, then they were never rooting for you in the first place. They were just waiting for you to fail and are excited to bite in once you do.
"God loves a cheerful giver", one of the many values my mom has taught me and my siblings. It's something that keeps us on track. It's rooted deep inside all of us and I'm proud that we were raised with such values. Being generous with our time and resources to others has helped me to be more empathetic and kind to people I meet--whether I feel like they deserve my help or not. It helps me see life in a more meaningful perspective. Peace is found once we set free of our grudges, our insecurities and our hatred. We are meant to blossom into beautiful creatures of hope, ones that bring light into the darkest of places.
So be a beacon of love!
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Very well said and insightful. I think a lot of people need to learn the things you've shared in this post ❤❤❤
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I totally agree with everything you've said in this article. The cancel culture is like fixing your entire car just because it has a broken tail light. Everybody makes mistakes, that doesn't mean that we get to use those mistakes to drag us down when we've grown and improved a lot as a person.
My Mom always said to us kids, "If you don't have anything kind to say, don't say anything at all". Everybody had bad days. We are all human - well at least I hope we are anyway lol. It is important that we allow each other breathing space to vent when needed, although unchecked outrage should be challenged appropriately. There are however always 2 or more sides to every story, and in a world where things go viral without people having even a hint of real understanding of the underlying circumstances, we need to take a step back and think...with our hearts and our minds and consider everything in perspective before joining the "roadrage" bus. Reach out to the person concerned, give them an opportunity to explain or make amends. Give second chances. It's called being kind and allowing someone else to be human.
Very well said my sister! 😊 insecurities will only drag them down☺ let's keep on posting and motivates each other. 🤗
Totally agree ko ani. 😊
I hate the fact that the internet never forgets 😪
Luoy kaayo na si amalayer girl dzai kay she joined kato Bawal Judgemental sa EB and until now she's seeing her therapist kay and impact ato sa iyaha was severe gyud HUHUHUHUUUU 😭The downside of the Internet is that people are quick to judge others ma define na nuon sa "one bad thing" because of "one viral video". Nya as if kitang tanan we do not make mistakes ba. That's the sad reality as Internet kay people, especially mga trolls out there, are quick to say harsh words without minding how these words would eventually affect the person ba 😭😭
This should be taken seriously. Someone's mental health should be protected and healed. You can't win a fight by dragging and discrediting people for your own sake.
Lovely picture and post as well @swaycanete
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