One of the things I enjoy doing is talking to old people. I agree that age has nothing to do with maturity, but I also believe that experience has everything to do with age. You can’t expect a younger person to have more experience than an older person.
My mom always says every older person has been young before, so that means older people have experienced a lot. Right from childhood to their current age. I think I’ve made my point, so let me just go ahead with what I want to say.
So I was speaking to this old woman today, and she said something that caught my attention. I was asking her a lot of questions because I just like to know stuff from people’s experiences. She was telling me how she married at the age of 18 years not because she wanted to but because she had to.
Yes, I know you are curious to know why. I was too. I asked why, and she said she was the eldest amongst her siblings and her junior sister wanted to get married so she had to honour tradition and get marriage first to give her sister the chance to also marry.
Are you confused? Let me break it down. In some tribes, the older siblings have to marry first before the younger ones. If the younger one marries first, it’s more like an embarrassment to the older one. So that’s why she married even when she didn’t want to.
I was curious if she loved the person she married and she said, “Love is not enough to keep a marriage.” That made me want to know if they were still married, and she said yes. So I then asked why her little sister wanted to get married so bad. Because according to my calculations, if she truly married at 18 years, then her sister was probably 2 years younger or even more.
She then told me her sister was pregnant and that’s why she wanted to marry early so that before her stomach started protruding, she would already be a wife. At that moment I was already confused, and although I was quiet, my face was really loud. She could see from my facial expression that I was struggling to understand, so she explained further.
“Oh yes, it’s a huge dishonor to your family to give birth before marrying.” So I asked her what if I’m not sure about the person I’m carrying the child for? What if that’s not the person I want to be with? "Then why are you with the person?" She almost shouted. And that was I realized I was already beginning to think like how this generation wants us to.
You see, we live in a generation where baby mamas and daddies have been normalized. People aren’t even in romantic relationships to marry; it’s now for fun. This is where a Gen Z would argue that “I won’t let pregnancy tie me to a man or woman,” which I believe is funny. Because what’s your business being with someone you don’t even want to end up with in the first place?
This generation does a lot of things that baffle me. And sometimes before we realize, although we don’t understand why certain things are the way they are, we already have adopted that way of thinking and are far gone.
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This generation is really baffling to a certain extent because of the way we have normalize things that were once considered an abomination and unethical.
I guess you gained a new insight and knowledge into life by talking to the old woman.
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Asking questions was also one of my hobbies then, one have one thing in common 😁, educative writeup
Then?
You’ve stopped asking questions now?
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STOPIt's nice that they are still married if not my comment would have been different. This generation see nothing wrong in everything, exactly my question you don't want to have kids with someone and you are dating and having sex, that is very wrong.
I mean it’s even the reason behind people’s relationships I was talking about. Why be in relationships and commit for fun? Then just do it casually? That’s more simple.
Honestly, we are in generation where people see nothing wrong in everything. Honestly I feel bad for the woman who has to marry at the age of 18 just because her sister got pregnant and need to marry.
Well, you’re feeling bad for someone who married the love of her life at that time and is still with him.