One of the things that I dislike is disrespect. Whether disrespecting or being disrespected. And today, I found myself doing the same thing I dislike.
So an elderly person was talking to me about something. What started as a polite discussion began to shift into a different dimension.
I realized that his tone had changed; his composition was also becoming a little violent. And all that while, I was just quiet because one of the important things I’ve learned to do now is to listen. To be quiet and then listen attentively.
So all the time that he was talking, I was just quiet. I allowed him to talk for minutes about the same thing while I just kept nodding. I don’t know exactly what he thought for him to shift the conversation from its polite nature to a different one, but he did.
He began shouting at me and talking about something I knew nothing about. And although it sounded like it was a past issue, and I knew that I knew nothing about it, he sounded happy putting the blame on me.
He kept repeating the same thing a number of times, and then I realized that I had to reciprocate his energy for him to have a taste of his medicine; if not, he wasn’t going to stop what he was doing. So I began talking back, responding to what he was saying.
I kept saying it wasn’t me in the very same tone he was also speaking in and even added the same mannerisms he was doing. He then suddenly stopped talking and began to lower his tone. He wasn’t shouting anymore, he wasn’t blaming me anymore, and he was now agreeing to what I was saying.
I made a mental comment about how it took me reciprocating his energy for him to hear me, which I believe is very sad. Oftentimes, people who disrespect others just hate to be disrespected. Bullies hate to be bullied. People just hate to receive the kind of treatment they give others.
I was actually beginning to feel guilty after I walked away from him, but when I realized that the switch I made was what made him come back to his polite self, I believed it was worth it.
Images are mine
I hate someone been repetitive on some kind of error or mistakes, though you are not be blame as well, I think you reacted because he overdo, that's different nature of human being. But it's very good to be respectful and learn not to say much during a misunderstanding that is leading to fight.
Oh me too and it was annoying in this case because I wasn’t even at fault.
People are always looking for someone to point hands all so the can have that temporal delusional satisfaction.
I'm glad you took control of the situation at the end
Oh yeah, I’m also glad I did that.
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I really like how you handled the situation with patience first before deciding to mirror his energy.
Sometimes people don’t realize how harsh they sound until they’re given a taste of their own tone or medicine.
It’s true that respect is mutual, and it’s sad that some only understand it when it’s reflected back at them. You showed both restraint and strength, well done mamas.🌹