I've had my fair share of role models and people I looked up to, admiring their personality, mentality, and attitude. But, there was one moment that helped me understand that I couldn't continue looking up to someone I had previously admired. It was a conversation I had with a mentor, she had been a significant influence in my career. I had always respected her guidance, work ethic and professionalism. But during a discussion about a friend, she made a comment that shocked me – an insulting remark that showed a prejudiced mindset.
I tried to sweep it off, thinking it was just a one-off comment. But as I reflected on it, I realized that this mentality was not just a minor flaw; it was a notable issue that conflicted the values I thought she stands for. I remembered numerous times where she had made similar comments, and I had dismissed them as harmless. This time, I saw it differently. I realized that I had been ignoring red flags because of my admiration for her professional achievement.
That moment made me rethink our relationship and the values I had associated with this person. I began to see that her behavior and words didn't match with principles I held dear. I started to notice other flaws in her actions and words, and it became clear that I had been idealizing her. I realized that my admiration had blinded me to her flaws, and it was time to reconsider our relationship.
This taught me a valuable lesson about the importance of carefully reviewing the people I look up to. It showed me that even the most accomplished and respected individuals can have flaws and biases. I learned to separate my admiration for someone's achievements from their personal qualities and behaviors. It has helped me develop a more subtle angle when considering others. It also encouraged me to be more mindful of the people I keep.
I no longer looked up to her as a role model but I focus on her professional relationship. I now surround myself with people who shared my values and promote a positive, inclusive environment. This experience has been a valuable growth opportunity, teaching me to be more discerning and authentic in my relationship with people.
Have you been disappointed by someone you look up to. what's your take.
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STOPOn different occasions I have been disappointed by people I looked up to but that will be a story for another day. Anyways nice read.
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