I have never been a fan of 50/50,I totally disagree with 50/50 and anytime I tell a man I am not a 50/50 party they mostly feel it is because I am a woman, before I forget to welcome you all to my blog, my beautiful family.
A relationship or marriage that is based on 50/50 mostly doesn't last (my opinion),I personally believe that if you are in love with someone and agree to be with them you should accept them 100/100.
When it comes to me,100/100 is the deal. In a relationship or in marriage we should give our best, mostly whenever a couple decides to go 50/50 on their finances,it eventually becomes 50/50 in everything.
Before you know it, responsibility,efforts,emotions and time invested becomes 50/50,the relationship no longer becomes a romantic relationship but a business relationship where both business partners must be involved.
Whenever I say it 100/100 it is when both partners are fully involved,you don't wait for your husband and the husband also doesn't wait for the wife, everyone is fully aware that the duties are for anyone who is available and has a chance to fulfill it.
When growing up I never saw my parents doing 50/50 and honestly my dad takes all the financial responsibility of the family,my mom work too even due her salary is nothing compared to my dad's own,he has never asked her what she does with her salary, in fact day one of the month to the last day he gives her transportation to work.
It supposed to actually be an issue in the house because she has no parents alive and the only child but still complain about money more than anyone,but my dad never ask her,the joyful thing about this is anytime my dad is having issues paying any bills be it our school fees she has always showed up to support she have never failed to show up even without him knowing.
And as a family if there is a target to be achieved before the end of that year that target has always been achieved by both of them,who added the highest has never been discussed among them because it really doesn't matter to them what matters is the goal was achieved.
Growing up seeing them like that made me to be so sure of what I wanted during my single life,a man asking me what will you bring to the table was a red flag, because to me we both are to get the table and what so ever that is to be on the table should be decided by both of us not just one person.
100/100 is good in relationship because one person is meant to come in when the other person is down, know each other weakness and support each other not waiting for the other person, okey if you decide on 50/50 what happens on days the other person can't bring his or her 50/50 what then happens?
If you get going into a relationship or going to be committed to someone go with your 100/100 and make sure you are doing it with someone with the same mindset as you, because if you are someone with the mindset of 100/100 and you decide to settle with some with the mindset of 50/50 it becomes really difficult.
Give your best with no regrets,it makes you the bigger person, give your all,be there strength,be there confident and everything,let your present be appreciated and let your absence be felt,let him or her know that an impact was made.
The environment and family where you grew up in was the pushing factors, and I love that you saw practically examples, your words your opinion thanks for sharing 👍