There is a lot of things people take unseriously whereas it should be an important thing to observe and consider. One which is "The purpose of dating when I even look at how Gen z are going about their dating life, I shake my head in disappointment. Most of them take dating only as a way to go out and flex with their partner,eat their favorite dishes,attend ceremonies and functions together, gifting and billing each other. Don't misquote me, I do not say these above things should not be part of dating but it's far more than that.
It is very dangerous to venture into marriage when you don't know your domestic partner, trust me, knowing his/her name,favorite food,family is not all you have to know but also Knowing their interest,their perspective concerning life issues,their beliefs,their mentality even their tradition ,trust me you might later find out you can't cope with some people tradition but if you only find out after marriage,then don't you think it is too late? Prevention is better than cure.
Asking questions is also another purpose of dating. Ask your spouse real questions like "if life happens and I couldn't bare you children,will you be willing to stay forever or you might have to leave or get another woman ?", "if am to be a victim of an accident and results to me not being able to perform my sexual duties as a man ,will you be able able to stand by me? "What will be your take if my my sister has to live with us ?"
Some will say "God forbid" they would never experience such . Tell me, who has ever pray for bad things to happen. Life happens sometimes and it is best to be prepared for some unforseen circumstances in order to be better, so, never say never. Do not let any matter go without asking, bring every matter to the table ,agree on them ,then, no one will feel deceived or cheated on.
I will be glad if you can give your take on this in the comments section. Thanks in advance.
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So true people go into dating for the wrong reasons most just live in the moment and forget the future. Dating should help you see how you future will look like.
Yes, most get carried away with love and material things and forgot to work on what might later stare at their face in marriage . Thanks for stopping by and engaging sis ❤️
Life happens. I shake my head when I ask my friend what if something bad happens and then she'd scream, "God forbid bad thing," as if there wouldn't be bad times, too. The truth is, we cannot go on forever living in happiness without moments of sadness because this is life.
As for dating, a lot of people go in with a different purpose and when such purpose is fulfilled or not met, they leave. One thing I have learnt between two opposite sex is that you don't go into dating because of something you'd get in return but going with a more deeper purpose which is to create a lifetime for each other and there are deep questions we must ask each other to know who we are, our interests, reflections about life, what happens if things go wrong or not, etc. Dating goes beyond just meeting one's need but to know our true purpose from God particularly.
Am so glad I see someone that resonate with my reasoning. I just hope many could have this thoughts of ours too. Alot of lives won't be where they are . Thanks for sharing your thoughts sis 🥰
Dating goes beyond I love you, I love you. There are some extra things attached but some people won't bother to see what is attached they just want to date because the society is asking them to date. Most people are not conscious enough to have full understanding of it that why a lot of people ended up marrying and divorcing because they later got to know that it's more that I love you, you love me