Finding the Way to Speak from the Heart: The formula in my habit.

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A lot of people shy away from writing because they think it's difficult. They think, “I don’t have the right words,” or “I don’t have enough experience,” or “nobody will understand what I'm trying to say.” But the truth is, nothing becomes difficult unless we decide it is—and nothing becomes meaningful unless we let ourselves feel it deeply first.

This week, I’m sharing with you not just a prompt, but a journey: how I discovered my writing formula. How I go from blank page to something that matters. How I let the topic find me, how I draw inspiration, and how I grow—sometimes painfully, often joyfully—every single time I write.

If you’ve ever wondered how writers decide where to start, what to say, or how to keep going when doubt creeps in, then this is for you.

What Does “Your Writing Formula” Actually Mean?

When I say “writing formula,” I don’t mean a rigid set of rules. Not at all. It’s more like a recipe, something you can tweak, break, and remix. It’s what helps you move from “I want to write something” to “I have written something I believe in.”

For me, it’s a blend of:

Emotion + honesty: letting myself feel whatever is there, even when it’s uncomfortable

Structure + method: having some frame or plan so I don’t get lost

Research + experience: mixing what I know with what I discover

Reflection + revision: writing, stepping back, editing, and sometimes letting someone else read

My Path: How I Found My Way

I wasn’t always confident in my writing. I remember the early days: staring at the screen, heart beating, asking myself “Do I have anything to say?”

Here’s roughly how I discovered what works for me:

Topic emerges
Sometimes something in the news, a tweet, a song, or a walk in the rain sparks me. It could be something I feel angry about, hopeful about, or just really curious to explore.
Research + listening
I read. I talk to friends. I search stories people share on forums. I try to understand the corners of the topic that people don’t always notice.
Freewriting
I open a blank page and start writing whatever comes—no judgment, no structure. It could be a memory, a feeling, a sentence half-formed. I don’t worry about spelling, grammar, or order. It’s about bringing something raw into the world.
Refer back to life
I ask: When did I feel this? When did someone I know feel this? I pull in personal stories—mine or others’—to make the writing concrete and real rather than abstract.
Outline/organize
After that raw material is there, I see patterns. I think: “Here is what I want the reader to learn; here are the emotions I want them to feel; here is the journey from A → B → C.” So I build a simple outline: intro, middle parts, conclusion.

Write + revise
I write fully. Then I rest. Then I return with fresh eyes. I cut, I rearrange, I polish. Sometimes I read it out loud. Sometimes I share with someone I trust and ask: Does this sound like a person speaking, not a robot?
Using feedback & growth
Over time, I see what works. Which sentences people respond to. What kinds of introductions get people’s attention. What mistakes I always make. This helps me refine the formula—for me.

My Growth Since I Started Using This Formula

Looking back, I realise I’ve changed in ways I didn’t expect:

I feel more free when I write. I worry less about the “perfect beginning.”

I notice people react more when I share stories—not just ideas. They respond to vulnerability.

My writing is clearer; I make fewer “filler words” and more sentences that land.

I take longer sometimes—but the writing feels more honest, more me.

Would I Recommend This to Someone Else?

Definitely. In fact, I want to shout it to every person who says they want to write:

You don’t need to wait until you have everything “ready.”
Your feelings are material. Your doubts are part of the map.
If you follow a formula that lets you write and feel, you will grow.

Steps You Can Follow If You Want to Try It Yourself

Here is a version of the formula you can try. Adapt it, break it, make it yours.

Find your spark
What’s irritating you, moving you, curious to you? What have you seen today that didn’t sit right—or sat beautifully?

Let it sit + gather
Collect quotes, stories, images, anything that touches you about that spark. Let it simmer for a bit if you can.

Freewrite for 10-15 minutes
No goals. No expectations. Just write your thoughts, impressions, emotions.

Pull life into it
Use personal memories or real conversations. Ask: did I ever feel this? Did someone I know?

Sketch a map / outline
Decide roughly: intro (grab attention), middle parts (explanations, stories, lessons), conclusion (takeaway, hope, call-to-action).

Write full draft
Follow the outline but stay flexible. Let surprises come.

Rest + revise
Let it sit. Edit later. Remove what doesn’t serve. Tighten your voice. Make sure you are speaking, not preaching.

Share + listen
Share with one trusted person or via a small audience. See what resonates. Learn from feedback.

Repeat + reflect
The next time, you’ll start to notice parts of the formula that matter more for you. Use what works. Change what doesn’t.

Where This Touches You—Why It Matters

Because writing is so much more than putting words together.

It’s:

Releasing what’s inside so it doesn’t eat you up.

Connecting—someone, somewhere, reading you might nod, cry, think, “Yes, me too.”

Courageous—you risk being judged, misunderstood, or ignored. But you also risk changing something.

For people just starting (or still scared), having a formula isn’t about stifling creativity—it’s about giving a bridge: something to hold onto when the blank page looks big and heavy.

Possible Challenges—and What I’ve Learned

When research feels overwhelming: limit it. Pick two good sources. Let your own voice interpret them.

When self-doubt shows up: sometimes that’s your signal you’re going deeper. Write through it.

When time is short: freewriting and micro-drafts help. Short bursts instead of waiting for perfect blocks.

When your writing feels stale: bring in new experiences. Travel (even inside your city), listen to stories, read authors you don’t usually read.

My Invitation to You

If you are reading this and thinking, “I want to write more, but I don’t know how”, try this formula. Be patient with yourself. Let your heart show up. Don’t wait for everything to be perfect.

Because every time you write with honesty, every time you share just one truth, you do something powerful. You become more you. You let someone else know they are not alone.

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