Choosing to be calm in a tough situation is often a big task to take. No one smiles when he or she is troubled. It's not something strange but a natural part of human behavior regardless of age. When a person is very angry, their mood changes completely — the tone of their voice, their manner of approach, and even their body language. But trying your best to calm down and be quiet at that particular moment can help control emotions and strengthen your courage in making better decisions.
Silence is said to be louder than a voice. This is true because if a person in pain decides to express themselves, it may result in saying hurtful words that can worsen the situation. One thing I’ve learned is that maintaining silence helps an individual figure out the right step to take.
But when people decide to bring out the beast in them, it often turns into regret because no one can take back harsh words or actions once they are done.
I was once falsely accused in the past when I was still in secondary school.
My uncle, who happened to be my guardian, opened a bank account for me and told me he did that so I could save some money. He never instructed me on how to use it, but along the line, I decided to save any money given to me for breakfast. Because of the savings, I preferred being given money to buy what I wanted in school so I could save a little change, rather than eating at home and saving nothing. I did this for a few months and was able to save ₦5,000 in the account. I continued — whenever I got some money, I would reserve a bit somewhere in my room.
All this was happening during Nigeria’s cashless policy period. My savings were not known to anyone, not even my close friends.
One night, as things often go, I had eaten dinner and was about to sleep peacefully when my guardian’s wife called me, saying we needed to have a discussion. I went to the sitting room where she was seated with her husband (my uncle). She started talking and told me that what I did today, I should never repeat it again. I became a little confused but kept listening.
She went on to say she saw me go to her drawer and take some money, but because she didn’t want to disgrace me, she decided not to confront me at that moment. I became very angry — my mood changed, and my heart was heavy because she was accusing me wrongly. I almost overreacted but decided to calm myself down. I gathered courage and told her I didn’t take any money from her drawer. I also asked why she didn’t confront me to clarify her claims.
I never knew something deeper had already happened. That night, I slept with a troubled mind. The next day, I realized my savings were no longer in the place I kept them. I started rethinking and recalculating everything that had happened, and I understood that she must have seen my savings but, instead of saying what she actually saw, she chose to speak otherwise — claiming she saw me in the act.
After the incident, I distanced myself for my own safety, to avoid further problems.That experience taught me that peace doesn’t always mean everything is perfect but sometimes, it’s the strength to stay calm in the middle of misunderstanding.
Thanks for reading through 🙏
I can feel your pain, that wasn't right of her infact, it's gives reasons you should distant yourself from her if possible the family entirely, be grateful she just accused you of stealing money just because she saw some of your savings, she can do worst my friend. Stay safe and stay sharp!
Thank you for sharing this with us @youngezeblinzz
Thank you so much sir 🙏. Your words really touched me. That experience was painful, but it helped me grow stronger and wiser. I’m truly grateful for your kind advice and support — it means a lot to me.