Is this a desire that is negative for my wellbeing? There is a fine line there.
It can be a fine line for those who are paying attention - for those who are not, I don't think they realise there is a line at all, they are all in!
according to my definition of unstable.
Funny, isn't it? Your definition is probably more "correct" yet people believe that they can define their own states, without realising they are mostly just lying to themselves.
Most of the lights (that we use) in our house are digital LEDs, but I will not get a listening device to control them, and I have all the voice crap turned off on my phone. The lights I can deal with, because I can change the colour to set different feels throughout the year.