This was captured on our wedding day. Before then,around year 2010, we started talking and in year 2015 he wanted to be more than just a friend. He asked me to marry him and build a home with him. I accepted because his personality is Uniqe and I have seen more than just a friend in him. On that faithful day, he and his family from ogbomosho south west Nigeria visited my parent in Benin city, Edo state Nigeria where I was born, to ask for my hand in marriage as our custom demands. My parent entertained them with kolanuts and drinks because it is in our culture in Benin to entertain our guest. After the kolanuts was broken and eaten, his family spokesman revealed the purpose of their visit, which was to ask for my hand in marriage. They brought kolanuts, palmwine,yams,coconuts,sugar, salt,palm oil and other valuable gifts and presented it to my father. My father called me and asked if I know him and his people, he also informed me about their proposal and asked if he should accept the gifts. My response was "yes, I do". After that, a bride price of twenty two naira was paid. I was taken inside a room and was adorned with coral beads and beaded headpiece which was the traditional attire for bride in Bini culture.
Different maidens was taking to my husband as his bride but he refused them all saying they were not his bride. After all that, I was escorted outside with danceable Bini cultural song by my sisters and friends and when he saw me, he confirmed that am his bride. So my father hand me over to his father after which his father hand me over to him and we were joined together as man and wife.
Its been 5 years, 9months and 18 days,we are blessed with 2 beautiful children
our marriage has its up and down but we balanced it up because we believe that we are better together.
Thank you for reading.
Very interesting that marriage ritual, in my country there is no such thing, simply the bride and groom agree to marry each other, and in some families there is a formality of asking permission to the father of the bride, but it is no more than an announcement without major rites.
Blessings to your family
Wow! @miriannalis. Africans are blessed with rich cultural heritage. We believed that marriage is not the union between a man and a woman alone but also between both families. Thank you for the prayers. Blessings to u too.
Wonderful belief, it is totally true, marriage is the union of two families and I find it beautiful the way they make that connection from the beginning. Greetings 🤗
Wow! Reading through post, I felt like I was actually there experience the beautiful ceremony.
One thing I love about your culture is the fact bride is not a priority but a must. It is not expensive but it is always valued regardless of the price.
Well done. God continue to bless you and family and also I wish you many more fruitful years ahead.
Amen. Thank you @esther-emmanuel for the prayers
He was right not to have allowed maids followed you to his house when you were supposed to have a honey moon. I think I will do same ohh.
Congratulations to your family and blessings of children and a good husband. Love your culture
Thank you for your comment @danladi . But The maidens are not to follow us home as maid. The maiden are beautiful young ladies. They are brought to him to choose one of them as the wife he came to marry. But He refused saying this is not the woman he wants to take as his wife. That's our custom
Okay, nice culture
Gosh this is so lovely ❤️
I'm happy you have been taken away from the single ladies room 😜
Well for sure tradition ad practices must be involved in dealing with marital rites and rituals.
Every State has there own differences when it comes to been marriage, kola nuts too and drinks too is what we serve the guest although the kola nuts can varie from garden egg and groundnut, biscuits and groundnuts.
It's very true that marriage has its ups and down but at the end is joyful.... Happy Married Life!
More Grace, More Love and More Understanding!
Awesome!
Aww, this is beautiful! Your Bini marriage culture is an interesting one, especially the part where different maidens are shown to the groom. I'm glad he knows who his wife is. 😄
And you say bride price was N22?! Hahah, well, I think it was just to symbolize your husband's commitment to marry you.
You have a lovely family. Nicely written. 🙂
Yes @kemmyb its N22. Thank you for your comment