It's good to read that your mother and yourself are moving towards the light at least. We can only choose to break the cycles ourselves and offer a hand to others, though it won't always be taken.
Interestingly, I've been coming across a few things lately discussing something about us having to heal from our ancestors emotional wounds. If that's the case, then I'd say each generation will be more screwed than the next. I can't say I understand it really, or the desire of people to put guilt on current generations because of their ancestry.