A person's perspective is their reality whether it's right or wrong; if they see it a particular way, then that's what it is.
I think that results in misperceptions and misunderstandings a lot of the time mainly because people accept their initial perception and fail to remain open to the fact that what they initially perceived may indeed not be true...or maybe it's laziness in that they can't be bothered finding out the truth.
I had nine cups of coffee on Friday between the hours of 5am and midnight...although, one of them took me through until just after midnight to drink... about a half hour ago, so that's Saturday.
Did I have nine or was the eighth cup my last for the day and the ninth actually the first cup on Saturday? It all comes down to perception I guess.
Ok, that's not a great example really, but earlier in the day a person had completely misread a situation and their perception of what they saw was very far from the reality. Of course, they reacted to their perception and things went south from there causing me a lot of complexity and additional workload. Annoying. In this case it was down to laziness on the part of that other person and I think they'll not do it again in a hurry.
It happens though; we're only human, but when did people lose the ability to investigate a situation and change perception if and when required? Have we been trained/brainwashed to see what we see and simply just accept it? I think that's what governments, marketers and social media companies promote, that's for sure.
Anyway, have you ever got it wrong? Has your incorrect perception of a situation or person caused you problems or have you been the victim of such a misperception?
Tell me about it below.
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In my limited experience it seems a lot of people are just weirdly but absolutely terrified of being wrong (I used to be one of them once upon a time) so they will either not say anything either way or they will double down to the point of idiocy (I have done both).
That is a lot of coffee O_O I remember when J used to drink that much during uni days. When assessment period ended (can't remember if it was when he was graduating or earlier) he decided he would stop as he didn't need to stay awake anymore and the withdrawal symptoms were pretty ordinary XD
Yep, that's how it often goes but you said, "used to be," so it seems you've wised up and I reckon you are probably better for it.
I had a thing happening and that meant long hours and that's where coffee comes in. I don't necessarily need it to keep me awake, it's just something that seems to go with long hours I guess.
I am and have been an intense guy, less now but still intense. That's has worked wrong mostly, first impressions or perceptions usually take is through wrong paths, wether in life or in mind.
It(being intense) has shown me a couple of things I can and have used, but still am intense 8n some ways and some matters. Cause that's the way I am. I change a bit here an there, prepare for intense perceptions now and then but there will always be an uncovered spot 8n which intenseness will win. And that's ok. We will learn and be learning until the last day, that's for sure.
Intenseness has driven me wrong many times, many that I can't count, many different ways as well, but it's also ok. We learn more transcendentally from mistakes that from studies, that's my opinion and also take it for sure. Hit a stone hard with yo8ur feet, as hard as it hurts and know for sure you will not hit it again.
Heck no!!!!
Did you enjoy every coffee including that one that couod be both the 9th and the 1th?
That is important
Sorry for these words but...
Perception sometimes can be a deceiving bitch.
Have a Great Weekend your self. From Cuba in a minute of light, there goes my comment. Tomorrow, who knows? Isn't promised...as you say. 😉
I think it's good that you understand who you are, what works and what maybe doesn't always work so well, because it means a person can build on the good and work around the not so good elements and work towards a more enjoyable, happy and meaningful life. Well done there.
One lives with oneself the whole life, some ones don't get to ever really know themselves. What better thing than to know oneself well enought to manage, build, change, rebuild, erase... right?
When I started school as a child, I started studying mathematics after grade 5. From then on, like the other children in the class, I thought that mathematics was a difficult subject. The main reason for this was that the teacher created a misconception among the children that mathematics was a very difficult subject. That is why I scored less than 40 out of 100 marks in mathematics in the school term exams from grade 5 to grade 10. In fact, I was weak in mathematics at that time. But in grade 11, I met a teacher who was passionate about the subject, and I was able to become good at mathematics.
That's a really good example of the perception you had, based on someone else's behaviours, limiting your life. You found a better way forward though and that's what counts.
Now I can't really remind the exact case, the matter, but it has happened various times with the wife or parents that they mispercept and it took A LOT of effort to make them realize they were wrong, I think people can't accept to be wrong, it's just like they say end of story... I don't think it's lazyness, more arrogance to have the truth
I agree, for some reason people's ego don't let them admit they're wrong. I wonder if it's been like that throughout history or if it's a learned behaviour that's become more prevalent in the last 50-100 years.
It was a crush in my office, who often seen with another boy. I liked her! But I never enquired and never bothered to investigate about the boy and perceived them to be in love. But there was a twist in story which i later found out, the boy was her cousin and they were not in any relation. But by that time, I left the organisation ...🫣
Classic misperception!
I wonder how many times things like this occur and how they impact people's lives negatively or simply cause one to take a completely different path based on the perception.
I just had a case today where people were telling me that the wireless Internet wasn't working the way it was supposed to. I assured them it was because I know I checked the one box I needed to to make that happen. I finally went back and double checked only to find out the box was indeed not checked. I used to be a lot more sure in my "rightness", but now that I am older, I realize I probably get it wrong a lot more times than I think!
Well, people tend to be wrong in their "supposed" issues with computers.amd connections.But yes, age can also be a bitch, I've found my self double checking the front door closed when I was fucken sure I closed it. But the doubt didn't let me sleep so I fucken went to vanish the thought and yes!!! It was closed...5 of the 9 times.
I've done that with the garage door before
I thought it was an obsessive-compulsive behavior from me.
I think age/experience has a lot to do with a person adjusting their "rightness" including their need to be (or seem) right all the time. More patience maybe I guess, tolerance for others and simply more wisdom probably...no one is always right.
Yes, it sure seems that way. I think part of it too is just the wasted time arguing. You realize it really isn't worth it ultimately.
Arguing with other people is rarely of benefit and most often there's better things to do with one's time. There's a lot of people out there who have need to be right all the time, even though they know they are probably not, and walking away or ignoring them is often my way of dealing with it. At work though, sometimes that's not possible...but in the environments I operate in those people don't tend to stick around overly long.
Sometimes it's just the person's ego that stands in the way of changing their erroneous perceptions. They feel it would reduce their person if they did. They try to avoid that troubling feeling of being proven wrong. That's an aspect I'm currently working on myself, to accept the truth for what it is, even if I don't feel comfortable doing so. That's maturity.
Ego, yep exactly.
It actually gets in the way of a lot of other good things about a human, causes them to see with different eyes, opinions, attitudes and so on...and that changed actions. Well said.
When evaluating something, people avoid putting themselves in someone else's shoes (demanding, expecting, wishing that someone else will do something, as they imagined).
When I asked a young man who was standing next to my car in fear while we were arguing, why he rode his bike in front of my car and forced me to brake hard, he told me "I thought I would pass before you got there".
My friend, if I hadn't spotted you in time and braked as hard as I could, you would be in the car (or the ambulance or the coroner's) right now.
Your judgment and point of view were bad...
I think that's true indeed, ego and hubris, (and in the case if the bike guy) stupidity often cloud judgement and perception which leads to other less salubrious results.
Nine cups of coffee?! I wonder what's the effect on your alertness/mind. I think the max I have gone was probably three. And my eyes were wide open the entire day. Lol.
I have three before 10am.
Wow!
We constantly evaluate ourselves and others. But our assessment is always subjective and one-sided.
Is there such a thing as right or wrong? Or is it just a mismatch between two different perceptions? And there is a third way, which is also correct. As in the famous Eastern parable, where everyone turned out to be right...
In any case, coffee is always appropriate)
I think there is definitely a thing as right or wrong.
Hmm, let me see now...
Ok, an adult molesting a child sexually. Wrong.
Me cutting that fuckers heart out with a blunt spoon. Right.
And...I'd enjoy a coffee afterwards. Right.
I hear you! I drink way too much coffee!
Can there ever be too much?