We seem to make things work mostly and have a pretty good life. She doesn't like to cook much, meaning she sees it as a chore that needs to be done rather than something she does for enjoyment, but she cooks quite a lot and we cook well together...although, when I'm in the kitchen I'm the boss and she's the gopher. Lol.
Our lives are often hectic so we do what we can when we can. We don't obsess over the cleaning and tidying though; the secret is we do it as we go and do it together. Works better.
(Windows. I don't like cleaning them but it's so much nicer when they're done.)
lol And you've never seen a more beautiful 'gopher' I'll wager...as it should be. The team works and that's what matters most.
Indeed, a pretty gopher.