If I slip up and receive a good gift, I will not have given a good gift. This is probably a natural law that affects us all and needs a name. The Gift Reciprocal Law.
Padgett Powell
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The heart reciprocates.
Have you ever felt the need to say the golden words to people? The need to hug someone in pain even when no one hugged you in yours? The need to motivate people even when you are losing yourself? The need to cleanse off someone's tears when you only have the pillow to clean yours? Have you ever felt this and others you can think of?
If you answered “Yes” to be above questions you aren’t wrong.
If you answered “No” you aren’t wrong either.
As individuals, we are structured differently and do things differently, what you may think wrong might be right to another, and what you term “Ego” maybe someone else’s way of keeping to themselves because of certain circumstances.
Life has dealt with us differently and in these different times, we meet with certain individuals who either come to add more to the blow given or help relieve the swollen lump.
Reciprocity can be in form of an abstract noun or sometimes it can be held like giving out a gift to someone on their special day.
The act of reciprocating needs two to make it work like in tango but the world we are in now may break us apart in not receiving it back from the person giving it to. Though we receive it back later when we least expect it from things or people around us.
Citing an example of myself for better understanding.
I am a people person and not a people person which means I have my extroverted and introverted side at work.
I am a soul that feels indebted whenever someone does something to me, I always feel the need to return the positive vibe. People close to me know there is something I stay far away from which is “debt” which is why I always reciprocate back what people do in order not to be in debt.
Apart from this, I have a kindred spirit that helps people, especially in times of their need. I usually have friends calling on me in their darkest hours as I have been told I have the spirit to lighten up a dark room. This light follows me everywhere that makes people want to associate with me which I return with a great vibe. A friend once told me I am like a moon, gloomy or shiny I always display that radiance.
Having given my all to people around me and beyond, I don’t want it returned though, a certain part of me craves this in my darkest hours when I have no one to call or talk to which is where my introverted does come in.
I mentioned “Ego” which some feel I have in great quantity 😂😂 but I am the opposite of their thoughts, like I said, life has dealt with us differently which makes us react to things differently, the truth is I'm not used to receiving from people when I give back which is one of the reasons I love staying to myself even in times of pain.
Though I have reciprocated by being around to show love anywhere I find myself, whenever a friend is sick the person is assured that I will be a 3 Square meal calling in the morning, afternoon, and night to check up on the person.
Photo On Pexel by Jamie-ReimerBut many times I have stayed with this love not given back or less given. These times I have a certain part of me that question me, “why does it seem like no one cares?” but at this time my heart reminds me people are different and the presence of nature reminds me that the presence of my creator has reciprocated back what I have given with the presence of air around me and the ability to feel and see nature enchanting beauty all around.
Seeing this makes me realize that whatever is given out will be reciprocated. Just like we all know that “whatever goes around, comes back around”. Sometimes it happens that the people we reciprocated the love to do not return It but either way we receive it back from the people we know or others we are yet to meet or nature will fill in the void.
This brings us back to the ‘Titled Question.’
"Reciprocity, should it be expected?"
Yes? No? Or maybe?
Whichever answer you give to it, note this, whether we should expect it, not expect it or maybe expect it, “Karma” will always give it back in various forms it sees fit.
This answers the question in Unity and Freedom Community posted by @antnn on the topic titled “Reciprocate” or “Reciprocity”. You can also join here and do not forget to read the given rules and regulations that Unite us all.
Still yours truly,
Balikis.
Thanks for reading.
Peace be unto those who crave it and more to those who chase it away.
Beautifully written...
I can relate with you on the aspect of that ego in quantity...so many folks around me think.. I.am so damn prideful but I call it my tranquility. I won't bother explaining it to them cause I know I am far beyond that thought of theirs.
You are kind-hearted and pure... that is enough to keep you to be you always😍
Thanks for the comment, I do agree we don't owe them an explanation.. I mean, how many people do we need to keep explaining to?
So are you 😘😘
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I love the way you expressed this, your words are on point.
That indebted feeling is much too familiar around here 😂
This is beautiful ❤️🤍, and you have a beautiful soul, it's obvious from this post.
Yunno I try my best to be kind to people too. But I've met people of a level of kindness that I can't even feel indebted to because they have much more than I have, I can just reciprocate by spreading kindness myself.
Keep being you dear, this world needs more people like you ❤️❤️ and certainly kindness eventually pays off 💝
Thanks for your words and advice were given, I'll stick to it continually. And it is obvious by yours that you are kindhearted.
Thanks for stopping by😘😘
Wow, I love how you approached this topic using yourself as an example. To me , I think we should not expect to be reciprocated. As humans, we might feel bad that people don't treat us back the way we does to them but that's individual differences. We can just continue to be ourselves, treat people fine , extend a helping hand when we can and like you said, karma will reward us even when humans fail to.
I came through #dreemport 🥰
Oh dearie, thanks for this comment.. No matter what, we should continue helping, to make the world a better place someone needs to start the journey right?.. Thanks for tuning in dreemer.
I can attest to it, and that's why good things follow you.
What an interesting article you've written. Well done.
Thanks for your reply Sis, it is well appreciated 😃😃
A good person always knows he or she is a good person and vice versa, but most times we try to lie to ourselves because we don't want to be proud and that's fine. Well so many of us like giving but don't like receiving and that is really honorable. Just like you said, sometimes we find it hard to ask because we have always been the ones giving but hey, who says you can't ask when you need?
If we don't ask then truly we have ego, whether or not we accept it because our father told us to ask even when he knows that we are in need, my dear, that's how important asking is. As long as we have need for something, we have to voice out to let others know we are in need of such things, else we might end up feeling hurt unnecessarily.
I also find it very hard to ask but then I realized that I was causing some problems to myself by doing and now I'm learning to ask so I will be given just as others ask and were given. Yes, I am not advising that we ask from those we have helped but if we see that they are in the position to do so, we should ask and if they fail to help don't hold it against them.
I have said a lot because you said something that touched me, thank you so much for approaching the challenge in this manner, we are truly grateful to have you here with us.
Thanks for reading through, truly seeking help isn't wrong and I have been learning to ask too. I have some circumstances in life which had made it hard for me to ask but I am learning now.
I appreciate your presence here and thanks for speaking up about how you feel.
Thanks for always being there with your love and kind heart.🤗🤗
That's it girl, it's a good thing you are learning to ask, I'm very sure you will no longer be feeling like you shouldn't ask soon enough.
You are always welcome dear, it's always a pleasure to stop by ☺️.
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Words of wisdom !
Once again, I feel really connected to what you say, how you seem to live it too.
It's very true, everything we give is given back to us, but the "trap" could be to expect it to be the same thing and at the same intensity. Expectations prevent us from feeling reality as it is rather than as we would like to see it, which is a definite pitfall !
I can confirm that every time I have had the opportunity to read your articles, I have felt this light in you ! A light that can illuminate the dark hours of those who give a lot, without waiting.
Thank you so much for your article here which has brightened my day 🌕 :)
Take care dear @balikis95, I hope you're going well, see you soon !
It is all thanks to you for bringing the light in. Thanks for stopping and see you soon too 🤗🤗.
People will always be different in that aspect and believe me, we are the same here. I don't give to expect from the same person because I believe that what goes around will always come back again because nature will always have its way of reciprocating. So, expecting in return from people with the aim of reciprocating would only make us disappointed if eventually things didn't turn out as we'd expected from such person. But we should understand that when we give out of love and willingly, it will surely come back to us even when we do not expect it.
Thanks to this addition to nature, whatever we give back we receive. I appreciate your presence here.
It's my pleasure 😊
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