There can be no question @minismallholding that life is unfair. Part of the fascination with life is how everyone views this fundamental fact. Starting with the "fun" of realizing the vast spectrum of perspective on what is "fair" and what isn't. And, from there, why it isn't ...
In amongst all the "fun" is the "human condition" reality of the supremacy of the WIIFM (what is in it for me) principle in most of us. And its "contribution" to the painful reality of "unfairness" in life in this world ...
With our "quiver full" of children, our earlier (in life) attempts at talking through whatever the "crisis of the moment" was resulting in cries of "unfair!" got shorter and shorter. Down to something like, "Yep. Get used to it!" 😉
Seriously, we did find these discussions to be "learning opportunities" to talk about the "big questions" in life and what we suggested the answers might be, based upon our worldview.
For us, doing all in our power to never play favorites was very important. It was always a topic of conversation about how different they all were. While never perfect in our goal of "loving unconditionally," we have been encouraged with all of our children now out in the big, wide world never saying anything about feeling that some of them were loved or favored more than the others. So, at least we have some small consolation ...
Well, great post on a universal topic, my friend. I wish you well in your future endeavors to help your daughters successfully reach a point of being at peace about it.
I think they're reaching any age where only they can choose whether they can find a way to be at peace with it. My eldest probably struggles more with it than my youngest, which brings up yet another train of thought!