I can totally relate. That tomcat was quite a visitor. We often have cats stopping by, which is why we always keep a bowl of water outside. The birds use it as well.
We also have two cats of our own—a tomcat and a female cat. The tomcat is out and about most of the time, while the female hardly goes outside anymore. She’s 15 years old now, and I can hardly imagine life without her.
😻....... They definitely become part of the family my friend!!!😇😀