Oh yes <3 any post that starts with a Peterson quote is in my book as a great one. I admit this is still something I'm working on, but I often find myself listening to him to remind myself, when life seems unmanageable, start small ;)
On a more serious note, I'm sorry you're going through this. It doesn't sound like an easy situation. It's often hard to differentiate ourselves and assert ourselves in the face of parents once grown-up, isn't it? Especially when sharing a space.
Ever since coming back home, she tries to do all that for me and I am not going to lie, it is all pretty comfortable but they come at cost as she slowly loses respect for me which now I’ve noticed becoming more apparent.
Maybe it's a trade that isn't necessarily explicit? You say you are the breadwinner of the house, maybe your mom feels more to do these things "for you" in order to balance the scale? I hope that makes sense, just shooting ideas here, not trying to suggest what your reality looks like :) Hugs! I really enjoyed this!
She probably thinks it's a trade and attempt to help me with my day-to-day life. I mean, typically they mean well but honestly, it strips away some of the respect she has for me as well as that feeling that I am constantly her child despite being an adult 😅
Trust me, sometimes I keep telling her this issue but she'd forget all about it 🤣after a few months.