We both feel loved
Yes! I reckon it took us a couple of years to believe this truly, to really trust the other person when they said it. Now there's absolutely no doubt. It's bloody lovely innit??
And we are both odd too. Not everyone's cup of tea, but absolutely each other's weird person. Without the weird, we would be bored.
I've read that married people over the years sleep in separate beds.
My nervous system is such that it cannot handle someone moving and twitching next to me in bed. It just wakes me up. I've always been like that. The first few years we slept together and battled on trying even though I'd often end up on the couch. A good night's sleep helps me deal with life so in the end having separate beds was best for us.
This doesn't mean I don't wake at 6 am, make my bed and go straight to his for snuggles and dozing and love, or pre bed time goodnight embraces. But we both love our sleeping space now and have even arranged the camping set up to have separate beds!
53 years is awesome innings. You have become each other I think, grown up together. Humans are very sweet the way they mate for life like that. And you've clearly found the right mate in each other. A bit of luck and a lot of hard work too. You're very lucky. I feel happy for you both.
My biggest worry now is when one goes inevitably first. Mum was married for 60 odd years and nearly two years after Dads death she's still struggling without him, understandably, for all her stoicism and rationality. When you've been with someone since you were 16 it's like losing a limb I imagine.
Don't mean to be maudlin! It is the way of things. May you continue to be blessed by each other.
And hi Mr Agmoore! Greetings to you from Australia!
It's terrifying. The clock is ticking. Health issues have intruded. Makes the time together all the more precious.
It's an odd bargain all have struck with life, isn't it? We get all those years knowing that in the end we have to let people go. Not maudlin. Honest, which you tend to be.