Many times it's the second, the one in the shadow and that we don't always see in real life.
I think so as well, except for actors and other very famous people. With those you only get to see what they present to the world yet in private could be literal monsters. I've heard it said that everyone has three faces....one presented to the world, one shown only to our loved ones, and the last one...the inner one shown to no one, only known to ourselves.
I couldn't have said better!