Part of it is generational too I think; and tho I am olden enough to have grown up pre-internet and cell phone texting, my neurospicy self prefers it most of the time (some of us communicate better in the written word rather than in speaking). But talking is sometimes a nice change, especially if it's a friend.
That being said, it always makes me wonder when people are so concerned about calling or texting at a bad time, because as you said, you can just not answer. People will often not call or text at night for fear of waking someone up, and for myself, I sleep like the dead and it won't wake me, but for the light sleepers, why don't they put their phones on silent at night? Like, if you know that's a problem for you, you can do that - your pal or your auntie probably doesn't know. You can even set it to automatically change at certain times. People then say, what if there's an emergency? But what are the odds: is it more likely that everyone in your life knows that you nod off at 9pm and will avoid calling you or that there is a random emergency that you absolutely need to deal with at 3 am? I mean, as I said, I could sleep through the apocalypse and I'm not going to turn UP my phone every night just in case there's an emergency. Plus if you don't live alone, someone else in your home probably has a phone they can try too. But I digress!
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I really loved reading your response. You mentioned some other things that have crossed my mind as well.
I think you’re right about it being generational. The woman I spoke of in my post (the one that was frustrated with that response she got) came from a time when a phone call was all there was. All this new technology she is still getting used to and could care less about people preferring a text message lol. I think the older generations are thinking “what in the world is happening here.”
I definitely understand about some being more comfortable with speaking through written word. Honestly if things are hard to say on a phone call I opt for texting instead 🤷🏽♀️.
Hahaha yes! I laugh when someone texts me in the morning and says “so sorry if I woke you up with my call last night.” I’m like, when I go to sleep my phone is off or on silent. We do have some people in our family that tries to make us feel bad for silencing our phones. It’s for the very same reason you mentioned…it could be an emergency and we miss it. I can’t live my life glued to my phone because I might miss something.
There was one point in my life where I used to be a deep sleeper like you but after having kids I wake up with a drop of a feather now 😐😄.
Thanks for joining the convo, I enjoyed your input ~
Yeah, sometimes my mom signs text messages, like "Hey do you want to do xyz love Mom"
and I'm like, Mom, I know it's you! LOL. But she's signing it like an email or a letter.
Yeah, I'm always like, oh, text or call me whenever, I won't hear it if I'm asleep, and I might not see it when I'm awake either because I don't keep my phone in my pocket. It lives on my desk, or the endtable, or the counter, or wherever I've set it down last. I just check it periodically. I am not 911, I am not on call, I am not glued to the thing. That always seems to surprise people who can't put it down.
Years ago, when I had like, proto-smartphones (TMobile Sidekicks, those ones with keyboards underneath the screen you would slide out of the way), I realized it was becoming a problem to have the internet in my pocket, so when the last proto-smartphone broke, I actually downgraded on purpose because I had to break the habit. I kept a simple phone as the rest of the world was getting addicted to smartphones and only caved and got one when it got to the point where you can't do certain things anymore without one, like coupons at the grocery store. That did successfully break the habit for me, and now I am one of those people who will leave my phone untouched for hours. The battery lasts for days.
Hahaha that's so cute and hilarious all in the same. They grew up in the pen pal days so they like writing letters ☺️.
That was so smart of you to break yourself from that. We shouldn’t be so glued to our phones. I admit it is a relief when I turn mine off at night. I don’t like being bogged down with constant notifications and most times I feel the need to have to answer to them. I’ve been practicing leaving my phone in a different room and not worrying about it. If I miss a call I’ll return it when I can.