Lol, sounds like someone who'd call themselves a 'businessman' xD
Looks like you gave him waay to many chances to disrespect you. The first ghosting already commuicated that he does not respect you or your time, because, if he was genuine he would have dropped a - hey, something came up, can we reschedule - and not just ghost. Maybe this was his way of susing out if you'd drop the price, he maybe figured that if you're still talking to him after that then you're desperate enough to get rid of them and lower the price even more.
Not showing up at a time you pick out yourself is already next level of wtf, tho.. xD
People be weird, I've found that the best way to go about stangers in particular is to calmly but firmly set boundaries early on, my energy is too sparse and thus too exclusive to waste it on punks like this one. Maybe THAT'S why I come off as scary to people.. xD
~Josie~
honestly, I feel like this is a fine example of one of those little things I'm missing without a good woman in my life. lol.
i was already half-feeling that throughout the rage - no one to properly share with. but i forgot about the wise feedback half.
like, I used to often (unfairly) think wifey was 'hypersensitive' to microaggressions & subtle signs of disrespect - cuz frankly, I was oblivious. but its become alot clearer since: you ladies just seem to have a higher intelligence when it comes to that/this kind of stuff.
and yeah, there are surely some guys who get this to a far greater degree than myself - or maybe I'm just slow & dumb on this one, perhaps too naive & inexperienced, giving people benefit of doubt because I can't personally relate to or understand how some could be operate like that without such basic common sense & decency. but i feel that - as embodied here in the way you put - women in general are just way more attuned to these layers of social dynamics.
and yeah... as stubbornly independent as my ego would like to be, I gotta admit this input of yours is a good reminder of having taken that kind of wise counsel for granted while I had it.
I think women on average are more hypersensitive to everything, not just microaggressions and subtle signs of disrespect, it's a nervous system thing.. which also means that we have to be more mindful about self-regulation.
Giving people benefit of the doubt is really helpful in a lot of situations, but there needs to be a level of ballance there.. just exactly so as to not end up going nuclear.. :)
~Josie~