It has been a while I had some bean cake (Akara). I usually make them myself but ever since I ran out of bean flour which has been for about 3-4 months now, I haven't had a taste of it. When I woke up this morning, I was really craving for some. Just to satisfy my cravings, I went out to look for some.
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Luckily, I found a lady who was frying some. When it comes to what I eat outside, I am always careful because I easily get irritated at things that do not go well with me. So to ensure I don't get irritated, I always scrutinize stuff. When I got there, I had to look around first and observe the environment. Then I proceeded to view where she kept the bean cakes and how she covered them to avoid flies from feasting on them. Well she did a good job I must confess.
So I bought some. While I was waiting for her to package my bean cakes, an advanced lady approached me. She greeted me and I responded. I kept a long face because I thought she was coming to ask me for some money. I was already getting pissed because she wasn't handicapped. So begging for money this early morning was a No No for me.
I waited to hear what she was going to say to me. She said she would like to speak to me privately. I refused and told her that she could say whatever she wanted to say at the spot. After all if it was something good, it will be beneficial to everyone. It was just I ,the advanced lady and the seller that was there at that time. So She agreed and started the conversation.
She told me how beautiful I was and since she didn't see a ring on my finger meant I was not married.
I didn't respond to her. I kept mute and waited for her to land. She proceeded to say that what attracted her to me was the anklet I wore. She further explained that a lady who wears an anklet, isn't an ideal wife material. That an anklet is for prostitutes. She advised that I removed it immediately if I want to make heaven and even find a good man to marry me.
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According to her, no responsible man will see me like this to marry if I continue to wear anklets. I was really upset with all she was saying. But I managed to keep my cool. I didn't want to respond at that time because I knew it would have been rude of me to respond to her. I really tried to be calm. Deep down I was boiling with anger. I allowed her to keep talking and when she finished talking, I thanked her and then told her that I was married and have a child too. In fact it was my husband that bought it for me to wear and he is a very responsible man. I walked away.
I saw how disappointed she was by the way she looked at me. I have read a lot of stories tied around anklets. In the ancient times especially in Egypt, their women wore anklets to show their status which stated that they were married to wealthy men. I personally think that anklets are just fashion jewelries and nothing horrible is attached to it. Except what you attach it to in your mind.
What do you think about anklets? Are they bad for women to wear?
Oversabi 😂😂😂 I'm sure she would go on to say you and your husband will not make heaven
As in eh😂😂😂. Dramatic people everywhere
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🤣🤣🤣 I can relate to this Joy especially that early morning .
Hmmm, about the anklet , some people wouldn't just mind their business and overlook some irrelevant observations . I respect your calm emotions , otherwise you guys would have created a scene over their
The kind of scene we would have created eh, the whole street would have gathered for us. People will not mind their business and face the hardship that the government has brought upon us
The situations that people would need to talk about they won't, the one that it's not their business that they like.. You handled her just right.
Everyone deserve to wear whatever and look just how they want to look...
As in eh. The whole matter just annoyed me. You don't go about judging people. At least go close to them first.
Traditions don't worry about what people say be yourself
Yes I got that " be yourself".
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As they say in my country. To foolish words deaf ears. Don't pay attention to uncalled for comments. The anklets are beautiful.
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🤣 What a twist! One thing I've accepted for myself is that if a person is very busy with your life, chances are their own life is too boring to waste time on. Accordingly, you can only pity and embrace that person, because he is worse off than you are. Observe them with a cold mind sometime. You will see that this is indeed the case. Therefore, there will be no reason to be irritated and angry with them in the future. It's worked for me so far...
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I like your idea. You are very correct. A lot of this overly religious people are wicked. I know someone who lived close to me years ago. She never allowed us to fetch water from her compound and if her apples fall, you dare not pick it. She would rather let the fruits spoil and birds pick them than give people around. When she was robbed, nobody came out to help her.
That's life for you. The country needs to be fixed and anklets are the least of our problems.
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Yes, there are many such stories in every country. The world really needs to be repaired!
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Absolutely right
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It amazes me that people have the guts to say crazy shit like this to complete strangers in public! Lol. That’s wild and one hell of a way to start the day. I’m glad you kept your cool, I don’t know if I would have lol
The kind of things we see everyday is just so annoying. Imagine the guts to say I won't find a husband or go to heaven. Who is she to even judge me by the way.
It was really hard to keep my cool. I didn't want to have a bad day at all.
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Wow this is definitely a new one for me. I have never heard these sayings about anklets. I too feel they are just a pretty fashion statement to adorn our ankle.
I commend you for keeping your cool, I know how hard it is to hold the tongue. I wonder what her thoughts were after you responded and walked away. Oh well, it doesn’t matter anyway as you are a grown woman and can wear what you please ;)
That's how I see it too. I think people are just being too dramatic and overly religious in my country. Of all the problems to think of in this country, it is an anklet that someone should be worrying about.
I was boiling so hard. It was really hard for me to keep my cool but I am glad I did after all. I gave her the right response she deserved too.
Thank you for your comment too
Lol..... It's funny how people conclude what will take us to heaven😂
About the anklets, honestly, I have no take on it even though many people have different views and opinion about it
For me, who basically explains the anklets remains the person wearing it.
But honestly, anklets is the least of our problems currently... Things are spoiling in different sectors and anklet is far from them.
Misplaced priorities 🤦
You did well by keeping your cool, kudos
Exactly. In this time when a lot of things are really going wrong. Someone's problem is anklet. I really tried to hold myself. If not the whole street would have gathered for us
That's great of you indeed
Invariably your dignity stays with you too
Calm composure 👍
I think they are ok! Keep up the anklet wearing!
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I am not sure if it's funny or ridiculous for people to associate simple anklets with morality.
I find focusing on irrelevant things ridiculous
Honestly, it's hard for me to understand why there are people who think that way.
Well, I live in the US, so anklets are quite honestly the least of our worries over here right now. Pretty run of the mill stuff. I think people need to get with the times. Doesn't mean you need to throw out your morals, but realize the old rules don't always apply like they used to. I could probably go on a long rant about this, but I don't want to offend anyone. I found this post on Listnerds.
I totally understand this. The fact that times have changed doesn't mean one should live in immorality.
However just like you said, there are lots of things to worry about now
Hahaha drama everywhere
No be small drama ooo... Confused people
Some people just have to "talk bad" about people. I guess it makes them feel good about themselves. Hwo wrong they are.
I wonder why people are just so quick to judge. It pisses me off a great deal.
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